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@K, ah, gotcha. Agreed 🙂
Did he end up meeting your friends, ktfran?
Tinder Finance Guy suggested a cooking/baking session at his place and he offered to make the cooking part (I had mentioned I liked baking before). I’m interested and told him same, except I am going to the cottage this weekend (finally made friends with people who have cottages! [it’s kind of a Canadian thing]). I also had made plans to go to Ottawa the following weekend to visit friends/the city. So I’m looking at the weekend a few weeks from now and that seems far off? It would be three weeks from our second date. Should I maybe plan something in between if I am interested?
I probably am sabotaging my relationship life by planning trips and stuff. Like I do want to go to Otttawa but does it have to be now? I’m driving so it is flexible. Of course there’s work stuff too.
Have a second date at Second City (Toronto) with OKC guy tonight.
Hahaha, if appropriate, please keep us posted if ktfran knows Tinder Teacher.
Thanks for all your perspective regarding time of break up. Really appreciate your insight/experience. Glad to know it’s not a big deal (depending on the person). I think it caught me a little off guard that he brought it up, but it was kind of in passing, rather than a “let me tell you about my crazy ex’s”.
@K, I’m in southwest Ontario; anywhere close to you? 🙂
@Eve, I kind of feel the same way about this Tinder Finance Guy after our second date too. I don’t have great advice, but also chiming in that you’re not alone, and it helps to read everyone else’s advice. I flip flop between whether I find him attractive or not, but I’m curious to spend some more time with him except I also don’t want to lead him on. If you are certain though at you are’t attracted to him, then yeah, rejecting him now will save your time too.Also, that guy at your work is a jerk. Ya think after the second time he asked you out (heck, even the first) he’d know better.
kare, you are a bombshell! Love your outfit and I’m glad you had fun. Fabbity fab date ver! Thanks for sharing!
The hike with Tinder Finance Guy was really nice. It was super hot out but we chilled by a waterfall. We grabbed dinner at a fun local bar. Kind of an awkward end because he had to run to catch the train so no hug goodbye (I was driving).
He has this way of saying things that could be braggy/humble brag, but he really does seem genuine and just matter of fact about it. He talks about money, savings (“accumulating wealth”), investments etc. and to me that’s like woah too much. On the flipside, he’s cute and considerate. On paper he’s a solid person… job, has his own place, ambitious, likes his family. But maybe too ambitious for me?
A couple other red flaggish thing are: he mentioned offhand that he came out of a long-term relationship in February. Do you think 6-7 months is enough time to get over someone? I wanted to ask him how long the relationship was, but I didn’t since, like, don’t talk about exes on early dates, right? Also he he said an ex from Gr. 12/first year university was “crazy” which I’m not keen on as an adjective for women, but I guess that was also a while ago. This only came up because we were talking about high schools and his ex went to one of the ones we talked about.
I’m not sure if we will see each other soon or ever… He’s been working really late hours and my next two weekends are actually packed. I think I’ll leave it in his court to initiate again.
No, no, I pieced it out of non-sports wear clothes that can be used for a day hike! I am using the black legging capris and cute sports bra idea plus a v-neck tshirt.
Woot woot, yay ver!!
Thanks ladies for the hiking outfit suggestions. I’ve realized that I only own grungy gym clothes but I think I pieced something together.
Ewww, thank goodness he didn’t have your number. Thanks be to Tinder.
I kind of really like the blood donation idea! + good karma 🙂
Ooh, definitely bonus points, veritek 🙂 I’m so sorry to hear that mucha; I hope life will turn around. Tango lessons, industrial goth nights, sex with co-workers… good dates abound!
Ok, what is a cute outfit for a going on a hike second date? It’s not an intense hike but it is outdoors. Obviously I want to be dressed appropriately but I want to look nice tooo…
That was both hot and hilarious, kare! And dang, so close, Stone, but I guess it worked out for the better.
Yayyy, look forward to hearing more veritek!
Thanks so much for your detailed response, TheLadyE. Would actually be interested chatting to you more privately too.
Nice @shakeourtree! Hope tomorrow goes well!
See, yeah, I wouldn’t mind having someone to commiserate over dating, but the timing of some of those messages was weird. And now that I think about it, the reason he asked if I hooked up probably was because he was looking for something else (despite him saying he didn’t understand hookup culture). Sure it might have been a way to start swapping stories, but personally, I felt it was none of his business. It’s hard to tell tone through words, but that’s that.
@TheLadyE, sounds like you are in a good position with options. You mentioned before that you come from a conservative Christian background, but you said you are moving past that. Do you mind sharing a bit more? No pressure if you don’t want to.I come from a Christian family and while on the whole my family is liberal (e.g., pro-choice, support same sex couples, women pastors, etc.), my parents definitely instilled in me the no sex before marriage (but no purity ball or anything like that). I’m having a hard time moving past that, and whether I do want to move past that. I have actually become more religious as it helped me through some difficult times recently, but not so much that I am ready to know I want to abstain before marriage. Hypocritical possibly, but that is something I have been thinking about. I know I want to be in a committed relationship at least, but after that… My sister didn’t have sex before marriage and neither did her husband, and they were both in their early 30s when they got married. My sister is not judgmental at all but I feel like if she managed to wait, I have to wait too. I realize that virginity/purity has been overemphasized in western culture but it is hard to untrench it.
