Karebear1813
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LW – I’d like to suggest putting outdoor/indoor video cameras in your home that parents can easily get access to during the party.
If these kids are young enough that they need supervision than this would be a great way to make the parents feel more at ease. And not to mention, they might feel less likely to hang around.
The police ARE the best people to contact during a mental health crisis if the person is sucidual/homicidal and having erratic behaviors because they are the only ones that have the LEGAL ABILTIY to FORCIAIBLLY make someone go the hospital against their will. Social workers nor mental health crisis works have this ability nor the training and/or resources to do so. And quite frankly, I know alot of these people, they do not want this responsibility. It is to much of a risk and a liability.
Law enforcements every where deal with these situations on a daily bases if not multiple times a day.
This whole anticop things just pisses me off. Perhaps walk a mile in their shoes, volunteer, and hell, maybe even join the force and turn what you think is a negative into a positive since you seem to know it all.
Also it’s not just a moral issue that she cannot keep the dog, it is a legal issue. She has no rights to this persons property that she took even if assuming the dog will have a better life.
You should have let the cops manage the situation. They have training and access to resources to help this women that you dont have.
If she was having a mental health crisis then she should could have been taken to a hospital whether by agreeing or being forced.
And if she is an addict then the worst thing you can do for addict is supply them with cash and buying them a hotel rooms.
You didnt know what was going on with her and I know you were trying to do what you felt was right but what if this women, whether due to her mental issues or due to using drugs, had seriously hurt someone…had seriously hurt you?
And about the dog…you should unblock her and allow her the opportunity to get her dog back and/or ask if you can give the dog to her family. You don’t know her history with her dog. I would recommend meeting in a safe place like a police station and/or at the dogs vet to surrender the pup back.
If you are stalking your husbands whereabouts because you don’t trust him, it’s time to move on.
If your husband puts more effort into a friendship than he does his marriage, it’s time to move on.
If your husband avoids telling you the truth about his whereabouts/plans because it will cause a fight, it’s time to move on.
At this point Tina you need to see a psychologist, not a therapist. And get a divorce lawyer.
What move confirmation do you need. I am convinced you could walk in on them having full blown sex and STILL questions whether you should leave or not.
@istrice01 Perhaps you should go smoke some more of your special stash and ENLIGHTEN us more with your opinion…. truly its like you are out to lunch on this one and aren’t coming back anytime soon.
Your friend is of great questionable character. She literally introduced you to one of her married flings. She honestly sounds unstable. I’d cut out of the friendship because WHEN sh*t hits the fan you really don’t want to be her go to gal.
Stop responding to text – appear unavailable or busy with no apologizes. If confronted just response by saying you are no longer getting any gratification out of this friendship. If she presses you then tell her your feelings.
Maybe LW’s fiancé needed to go sleep on the couch because he needed some time to reflect about his engagement since clearly LW doesn’t like his dog and thinks she in a competition with it.
LW – if you think he loves his dog more than you, it’s time for you to move on.
Also, if the dog’s bark annoyed you, why didn’t you just tell him to be quiet while on the bed? I don’t get why you sent him to his dog bed and as a form of punishment?If your fiancés dog could talk, he would probably tell your fiancé to run!
(If US based ) I know everyone here is jumping straight Assisted Living (ALF) but in order to qualify for ALF you have to meet the qualification of the assessment and that assessment is based on Activities of Daily Living (ADL), physical, and cognitive decline, along with cost. Also, many ALF are costly, though there are some lower income level ALF for those on SSI or SSID. It depends on the state you reside in. If your MIL is independent and does not meet the assessment qualifications but still needs caregivers then she can find an Independent Senior homes/apartments living place. These are also based off income and can serve those who are on SSI/SSID.
You can contact your local Office on Aging/Department of Health – Adult Protective Services and Community Action Agency to assist with placement. Your MIL Physician’s office social worker can assist as well and would likely be better informed about what type of housing/placement would be appropriate for her. Not to mention they can assist with making referrals to programs such as Meals on Wheels and transportation services etc.
If hiring a caregiver is costly – then see if your state has a program for low income seniors for caregivers called homemakers. If she cannot bath self/toilet etc. anything regarding medical – her PCP can order home health in the home.
If you don’t want your MIL living with you then I suggest reaching out and findings out what programs and places can assist because she probably is not going to help herself.
Also, you cannot force this women into an ALF or any home she does not want to live in. She has to agree and be willing to accept services. It’s best to be honest and repeat it as often that you do not want to and will not take care of her, and repeat it over to her, your husband, and family so she is more likely to agree.
Nothing says you love and care about someone more than going behind their back and talking trash about them and telling their personal intimate situations- that’s not toxic at all, that’s what healthy relationships look like.
Friends and family really do not need to know about your sex life – if couples are having sex issues then they go to their doctors/sex therapist/ or talk it out. Friends and family do not need to be put in the middle of who is right or wrong and causing riffs in relationships. Friends and family will be the first ones to throw your dirty laundry out there when things go south between you and them. Friends and family will likely feel awkward hearing about your relationship issues and the ones that don’t probably enjoy gossiping about it.
If you are going to friends and family’s constantly complaining about your relationship then maybe its time to get professional help and/or exit it.
What’s a friend to say when you said to them “I’m not happy with Becky anymore, she gets on my nerves, annoys me when I play my video games, we are always fighting, and our sex life sucks” – friend replies back ” Oh yeah she’s a bad wife, you shouldn’t put up with that. Tell her to f off”. WOW soooo helpful!
LW – you should do as Kate said, and then prepare yourself for a divorce. Clearly neither one of you are happy and I wouldn’t be with someone who talked awful about me behind my back.
Oh, I see where you state you are a pushover. Yeah, your friend didnt approach you because of that.
Jeremy, what would have been your honest response if your friend came to you and said something like “I don’t want to be partners with you but I am interested in the buying the business” ?
I don’t think you boss was being an ass or owed you transparency. He has to make the best financial decisions for only himself. I think your boss entertained your idea as an option but end the end he made what he believes to have been the right decisions for himself. He shouldnt have to disclose other offers or persons that are interested with you at all. I don’t think you should have any spite or begrudge someone for this because this is how business is done. You didn’t have the funds to buy him out, end of story.
I wonder if your friend decided it was best not to mix business with friendship. I think your friend could have been more transparent with you but I don’t think your friend should have to explain himself and maybe that’s why they didn’t say anything. Would you have honestly pestered them about going in as partners or would you have just accepted the fact that they wanted to do this on their own.
I also dont think you were screwed over bc, again, you never had the funds in the first place.
