Kate
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“Women make me angry!”
But then what’s interesting is he never gets angry at US for the shit we say. He’s a riddle wrapped in a mystery inside an enigma.
I mean maybe they backed off when they realized you don’t go deeper than haunted houses and Christmas lights, and that you’re angry.
The demisexual thing makes sense. But instead of acknowledging that there’s something very different about YOU, and that you need to get help in order to adapt to how human beings and dating actually work, you just continue to express frustration and anger toward women. Obviously that’s easier, but it won’t get you anywhere, as evidenced by 20 years with no relationships.
“ but once I dated her enough to get to know her enough to start to feel the deeper feelings I need to feel in order to feel the “lust” feelings, she lost interest and pulled back. Hence my frustration that has repeated itself dozens of times in my 20s. Wash, rinse, repeat.”
Sounds like a personal problem.
Another thing, some of you defending the LW, are judging the woman’s worthiness to have a dog based on… *one* apparent public meltdown or mental health crisis, which was actually caused by the LW putting her in a hotel without her dog, and going by the narration of someone whose judgment and perceptions are questionable.
Tui:
“ criticising when they ask for help or advice doesn’t solve anything ”
Doesn’t it? To me, the problem was solved when she unblocked the dog’s owner and contacted her. That would not have happened if everyone said “you did the right thing!” She didn’t, she actually committed a crime.
Secondarily, if she now stops giving cash to people on the street, that would be another problem solved through criticism.
I do completely agree that criticism isn’t helpful to get people to do things like lose weight or leave a bad relationship or develop healthy habits or whatever.
Purple star, the LW refused to do the right thing (unblock and contact) until very late in the thread. They said, no, I’m not doing that. So to say, there was one thing for her to do, and she did it… for most of the thread that’s not accurate.
Using her mental health against her, I mean, that’s what she did to the woman in the story, by blocking her and deciding to keep the dog. A lot of people, including the LW, have mental health issues. She should be focusing on hers, including her risky behavior, judgment, etc.
If she has an impulse to help people in the community, she should volunteer. She really could have killed this woman by giving her cash.
Robert, as a middle-aged man and a businessperson, you should be able to have a conversation over one drink with literally anyone. And definitely with someone you enjoyed chatting with online.
No, it’s not lust I’m talking about. It’s not infatuation. It’s simply physical chemistry. And you don’t get it.
Also want to clarify, these comments we’re making about chemistry aren’t really about you, they’re about the women and why they’re not going out with you again even if you both like haunted houses. It’s because they don’t feel chemistry. Not lust, not infatuation, just like, do I want to be in a room with this person? Could I actually imagine kissing them?
But yes, it is ~different~ to not be able to imagine kissing someone until you’re already in love. I don’t know how to tackle that one, it’s above my pay grade.
Hell, the OP has significant mental health issues if they’re going to ~weekly~ therapy and/or writing a post like this. They’re in no position to judge if someone else should have a pet.
PS a lot of hotels and motels take dogs.
Yes, I think it is, and I was responding to the last comment.
