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Wow, I love these stories, even though they are very wild. Kate, that is truly bonkers. Akeath…I have no words.
I just can’t even imagine being pregnant like woman used to be, like 6 kids was a few back then, there were a lot in my ancestry with like 10 kids or more. I just can’t wrap my head around it. I’m not surprised so many women in my family were hospitalized for nervous exhaustion.
My husband’s friend whose father did this abandoned them when they uncovered his duplicity. He just moved in with the other family.
May grandfather’s whole excuse was he was trying to protect his first wife and kids.
I think its a weird populate the earth thing. Maybe not the guys with two families but the guys donating 1,000 times.
Yeah I’m sure there have been many kids born from another man’s donation, but that’s different than fully furnishing and affording and having a second wife and children which is what I mean by second secret family.
I read a disturbing article in the Atlantic or somewhere about super donors. Really, really creepy men out there who want to spread their seed as far and wide as possible.
I didn’t say it wasn’t partly Gina’s fault! But I do know my grandfather applied heavy pressure to her and in general behaved pretty terribly back then.
But also, Fyodor you never hear about women having secret families! I would love to meet the woman who had energy for a second family. There just isn’t enough mental capacity in anyone for all those schedules and food likes and dislikes, clothing needed, lists, play dates.Wendy, wow. That is shocking!
I have found unfortunate things like, some of my family lived technically in Mexico before the purchase of Texas. I also had a GGGG (or something) grandfather who was a dentist/barber in Austin in the late 1800s and I have found a confederate soldier. I have found multiple women who were hospitalized for nerves and some who died of suicide. Women who had a baby a year for 13 years. Can you imagine!?!?
All those insemination stories are so bonkers to me!
I don’t really have much of a relationship with most of my family, so I don’t really know where the interest is. Just to place myself, I guess? My dad abandoned my brother and I at age 11 and I didn’t see that side of my family until I was 22 and then a decade later. So…there is a huge part of me that is curious but I don’t want closer relationships with them really.
That is really gross, Kate. Copa, that IS wild. I bet she did find something. OMG.
It is hard, @ange. I know certain people have the documents I want (my mom) but I don’t want to make her think of things she put behind her long ago.
My grandfather then married a woman -who he is still married to- who is a year younger than my dad, his eldest. The age difference really shows when you are in your nineties with leukemia and your wife has just hit her 60s.
I so want to do a dna test to find all this crap (I know one of my mothers brothers had many marriages, and many kids out of wedlock, some who showed up at our door out of the blue one day when I was little,) but I also don’t want like, Zuckerberg to eventually own my genetic data? That’s my hang up.
I’ve spent the day calling family courts in CT trying to track down the right one for divorce/custody agreements in the mid 80s.
Why do you lie to your mother and your brother?
You really just need to accept that until you have your own place, you can’t change what happens in your mother’s house. Save up and go visit them.
If the grass needs cutting and the room needs fixing and you are living there, why not do that? You’re living there and it needs to be done. No time like the present.
We can’t help you with your issues with your mother. You need to make a plan to get back on your feet and independent of her and then you can host who ever you want for as many months or weeks as you want.
Yeah, why do you lie so much? It’d be easier to keep your story straight if you weren’t actively lying to your brother and his family and your mother about different things. Why do you think you feel the need to do that? Why are you afraid of being honest?
I also don’t understand why you’re essentially completely lying to your brother as canadadgoose pointed out. Why? If you want a relationship with him, go and forge one yourself. Don’t lie to him and then force your mom into something for whatever reason she doesn’t want.
I can tell you no DIL with a baby is going to want to be in a dilapidated place needing work with chipping paint and god knows what else and an angry MIL to greet her. No one wants that type of visit. I’m sorry if that sounds judgmental but I once asked my mom to baby proof her home and was shocked at what I found. You simply don’t understand unless you’ve had a small baby/toddler in recent decades.
I don’t think you’re right that it’s her viewing men as precious. If that was the case, she would do anything to bring him back and make them happy, if she was able. You don’t know why she doesn’t want them or at least haven’t explained it here and are just presuming what the problem is. And yeah, how does she (your mother) know this isn’t a case of your brother imposing his family on her for eternity? It seems her children take a lot of support from her and give her a lot of grief back for it.
Well, In that case, it’s no surprise he would balk at coming at the first sign of her/your hesitancy.
Interesting that she’s so abusive, sexist and terrible and holds you back but you are still with her and wrapped up in her life and decisions. I mean she is housing her now. Do you pay her rent? You should move on for you own happiness.
Is this all what you think or what you actually know is her perspective?
