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“That wasn’t directed at you, Wendy”
LOL.
From the guy who blasted all the sexually-abused-as-children parents who don’t feel comfortable dropping their 6/7 year olds off at strangers homes and leaving.
Parents have things to worry about, like guns, drugs, masks, vaccines and you have no fucking idea what you’re talking about PER USUAL.
If you don’t have kids, kindly shut the fuck up with your parenting advice.
Hey Mark, maybe you could make your points without making fun of every person on this thread who said they were abused or hurt at a party or trusted friends house. It’s really disrespectful and unnecessary and I’m honestly surprised this thread is up and you’re proud of what you’ve written here. Not one person said they think every neighbor or stranger is going to molest their kid.
I’ve have been utterly destroyed health wise by what happened to me when I was a child this year because my daughter is the same age as me when I was molested. That’s what triggered all my repressed memories and a lot of other horrible memories. I’m sure that’s funny for you to think about, since you weren’t abused or molested as a child.
As someone who says they write for a living I’m surprised you can’t imagine that other children, especially women had very different experiences than you did growing up. To that point, I have heard stories from men, too about bad things happening to them at neighbor hoods homes or whatever. But ha, ha, it’s just a joke and something to insult for Mark. Just all in a days work spreading joy as always.
Ask her to leave. When she insists on staying tell her you want her to leave. It’s your only option.
If you can’t be kind, be honest.
I also don’t think any adult expects entertainment from the host at a kid’s party.
But there’s so little risk, Mark. The probabilities.
That might not even be why this lady wants to stay which is the nutty thing. That’s just a single possibility. There is no good reason not to let her stay other than being rude because she isn’t wanted. The last two years have been hard on everyone, especially parents, especially x 10 most moms. Give her a break.
Mark, do you ever read what you are actually arguing and think, what the fuck am I trying to say? I bet my kids have a higher risk of being exploited or abused at a strangers home than you do of getting the virus, but you still wear a mask, don’t you? Imagine caring for something that you may or may not have created yourself that’s alive and not wanting anything bad to happen to it. It’s unlikely at a party, but not impossible. Who knew children’s birthday parties was such a hot button topic for a childless gay man.
Like statistically, only family friends and neighbors abuse other kids so this neighborhood woman should trust them because you’ve done the math for her and it’s highly unlikely her child will be molested? That’s your argument on why letting this mother, whose parented a child through nearly two years of a pandemic that has crushed mothers especially hard, should be asked to leave when other parents are staying?
Someone they mistakenly trust, Mark…Like a friend’s parents, or a neighborhood kid, or their parents, or a clergyman, teacher, coach, family friend.
Somehow arguing with real victims about percentages and statistics is not that shocking coming from you. Do you also know that most people (let alone children) never report anything? I was molested numerous times over my childhood. Ive been assaulted as an adult. Not all kids have the words for what happened. Not at all adults want to be subjected to the invasive criminal justice system. I still haven’t even told my parents what happened to me. I am not in your statistics, and I can tell you probably a high percentage never, ever report.
Spreading joy this holiday season, as always Mark!
Is wanting to stay with your six year old really “needy?”
Is poking fun and suggesting cameras to a bunch of people who are saying they were actually molested as children at other peoples homes funny? I seriously am shocked at this post and the comments.
It’s a six year olds party. It’s one extra mom. There’s a start and an end time. Is it really going to hurt to let this women sit in your home for two hours?
Whatever.
I’ll still be going to parties for my 6 and 7 year olds at homes I don’t know the parents well because I don’t want my kids to be diddled by your weird uncle Al. If you have kids in this day and age and seriously look around and trust all the parents you don’t know…I doubt you exist.
I haven’t actually been to any kids party yet where everyone drops them off. I did it that way to have less people breathing air in my home. I let a few parents stay. It didn’t kill me.
I seriously don’t understand why allowing this woman to stay is such a big deal. So what if she IS overprotective. It’s a 6/7 year old. Just be nice. Why make it awkward or force her to possibly leave with her child, just because you don’t like her personally? Be kind. Happy holidays, guys. People have all sorts of fears, anxieties and baggage. Maybe try not to be a dick to everyone?
I had bad experiences like Helen’s as well that shaped how I parent my kids. I have good friends that I do trust to leave my kids with and my 6&7 year olds have friendships they’ve made at school or otherwise with people I don’t really know that I wouldn’t feel comfortable just dropping them off with, other parents that I don’t know being there or not.
It’s not an insult, it’s probably her being what you perceive to be as overprotective but she just sees as being protective. We all have different baggage.
We just hosted my 6 year old daughter’s indoor (as Covid safe as I could make it) party and we offered friends the option to just drop off and most did, but one new friend’s parents stayed and now I might have a new set of adult friends because they were pretty cool. And honestly, they did help me clean up and herd the children.
And to another point, I always wonder about guns, if they are securely stored, etc and I normally want to know someone a little before I bring up hot topics.
I agree with the above. Everyone has different life experiences and circumstances. Be kind and flexible. Ask her to go when you want her to and she’s not picking up your subtle hints.
