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There’s a fundamental power imbalance with this type of age discrepancy. There are all sorts of stats about it. He’s already known to be a liar, and the lie was meant to be manipulative. Otherwise he would have corrected it outright.
It’s a grown adult dating a teenager. That’s why it’s creepy. She’s fresh out of high school.
I dated older men when I was young, but I view those times as older men having issues.
I married a man 13 years older than me, but I was 27 when we started dating.
I agree that a ten year age gap at 19, and the not disclosing his age for multiple dates are both big red flags. And let’s be real, most 29 year old women right now do not have children. He’s creepy. Any way you twist it. But, if you keep pressing this with her and she’s doesnt want to hear it, you risk alienating her.
Maybe approach her one more time, from a place of concern and care and then drop it. Sometimes people need to make their own mistakes, as painful as it can be to watch.If his story seems like bull, google him.
Yikes. I would agree it’s kind of rude to talk on the phone when you’re spending one on one time with someone, but he comes across as a jerk. He yelled at you for that! That’s not normal. He sounds pretty mean and controlling.
Don’t quit your job and move in with him. Please use birth control.
There’s not like, a magical code word or series of sentences that are going to make her want to open up to you. Either she likes you enough to open up or she doesn’t.
If you don’t have the cajones to ask her-
She’s given you no signs she likes you.
Let that be your answer.Just ask her. She’s not a goddamn puzzle you need to figure out. She’s a person. Hinting or giving signs is not a concrete action. Ask her. Tell her you like her (although you hardly know her so I don’t think you actually know enough about her to like her.)
You’ve built her up into a hugely over romanticized fantasy in your head. Your version of her doesn’t exist.
She gets to choose who she opens up to. All you can do is let her know that you are interested in knowing her better. If she doesn’t want that, you should be respectful and distance yourself.Your relationship is rocky, you don’t want kids, you argue, you have a pretty significant age gap.
No, don’t give up your life to move away and get married to a man you aren’t excited about, and don’t love.
This is the type of guy who goes off the rails because he can’t bear to see or think about “his woman” with another man.
Women aren’t possesions.
I agree that if a coworker commented that your boss always sits next to you, you are already the topic of office gossip. And that’s going to affect you the most.
You need to shut this down by not encouraging it. Stop staring. Go on a vacation and clear your head. You’re getting dangerously close to screwing your own career.
Do you have vacation time? Maybe you should take a well deserved break for a week.
