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Lol. Totally @Stone. Also, we go hog wild making assumptions with very little details to go on, project all our past problems onto the situation, and assume the person who may be making a common dating or life realization has all the wisdom and hindsight we have, when they are just starting out.
FWIW, I am so prone to use hyperbole and exaggeration in real life. It doesn’t translate well and sometimes every word written here is taken way too literally, even when it wasn’t intentionally written that way.
I’m not saying I’m not guilty of the above or have any solutions, either. I totally do all of those things.That’s awesome, Ver. Get it!
I had times where I’d get super horny and sex was terrific while pregnant. It’s pretty amazing when not, though. I think in the later months when your belly is bigger the sex is intense. Probably all the extra pressure. It was harder to find positions that weren’t uncomfortable, but I had sex right up until the end. Get it while you can because you can’t for awhile after birth.
That’s awesome! Good for you!
Omg, love the green dresses!
I just found it amusing that he was formerly complaining about this thread, and now he’s talking about it IRL. I’m not hating on jimmyjam. I find him generally pretty amusing. I didn’t attack him or call him out for anything.
I also didn’t argue against tinder as mainly a hookup app, I merely said most of the single friends I have had that have used tinder have found relationships on it. That it can work either way. And that’s probably more indicative of my friends and our general age group.I just think it’s funny that he’s been openly complaining about this thread a few pages back and how Veritek should stop commenting until she’s really going on an awesome date, but it’s obvious he’s as into this thread as anyone else is.
And he said a blanket statement that all men just want hookups off tinder, I just said not all do.
This thread is so fascinating to you, you bring it up and show it to 20 men at a barbershop? That’s pretty funny. Why is it so interesting to you?
I’ve actually had a fair amount of friends of both sexes find long term partners on tinder. I thought it was for mainly hookups, but I’d say the majority of people I know using it are looking for long term love, not hookups. But it takes all kinds, jimmyjam.
It’s funny to have been in both camps. The I-definitely-cannot-see-myself-ever-having kids, to full on parenting.
I’m all about people’s freedom of choice.
I used to hate it when people said things like, “Oh, you will want them one day.” “You’ll change your mind.” “You just haven’t met the right person yet.”Or even now, “See, I always knew you’d be a mom.” It’s like a nice version of “I told you so.”
Holy shit, @ange. That’s the best dating advice. You just shut down half a dozen websites. That’s basically where I was at, too. I just did not give a f$&#, and gave up all “rules.”
Strangely, I never wanted kids. I never really had thought about it, other than, “there’s no way I’ll ever be mature enough, I can barely take care of myself…” Ha, ha. I thought my husband didn’t either, as he is much older than me (I thought he would’ve already had them, maybe, or be vocal about wanting them.) Now I’ve got almost two. What in the fuck.It was mainly my idea. And I do love kids. He was no pressure about it either way.
It’s been funny though, when meeting old friends of his or one of our old bosses (yep, met at work!) they say things like, “and you said you thought you’d never have kids or a family! Look at you now!” It’s pretty sweet. I had no idea he wanted either. We are stupidly in love and so happy. I wish that for all my fellow DWers.It’s crazy, but at 32… I feel at some points ancient with my toddler and almost second born (3 1/2 weeks to go!) and also like I did it WAY too early. On one hand, it would’ve been nice to have kids at a younger age because going without sleep would be easier (ha!) but the emotional maturity and stamina and ability to be selfless to take care of a little…I think it comes with age. (I can only speak for myself.) I’m selfish and really, really miss my previous life as a single woman, even with the absolutely awesome husband and kid. And for real, I do not know how all these LWs with horrible, horrible partners do it. I would not be able to take care of my kid and myself half as well as I do without my husband. I mean, I’m sure we’d be okay, but FFS, they really do have it rough. I really emphathize with any single parent, or parent who has an asshat for a partner. I cannot imagine how tough that is.
And yes, I too, had trainwreck after trainwreck of crazy bad relationships. I took a break from dating without meaning to (I had the occasional one night of fun mixed in.) And seriously, my husband started as my FWB. It just grew from there, and it literally began as filthy, dirty, awesome sex only. When people ask how we met, I think we both blush.
Lol, @Kate, your avatar is awesome.
And lol @Kare, awesome dates are pretty boring to read about when you put it like that, although I still like reading about them…I actually (embarrassingly) look forward to Monday comments to see how everyone’s dates were on the weekend.
Anytime I comment on any thread about how awesome my husband and my kid is, I sort of feel a little like a schmuck.
