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We leave for the Galapagos tomorrow. We don’t have to test to get into Ecuador, but we do have to test to get on our small ship. We’ve been pretty safe the last week+ as a precaution. Fingers crossed we’re good.
I’ve mentioned it on this thread before. When I had Covid in January, my at home test was coming back negative and I was obviously really sick. The PCR at the hospital was positive. I don’t fully trust at home tests results.
I’m guessing most people have had it at this point, it’s just a matter of how your body reacted.
Bringing this thread back to life to tell everyone the last family member, my two year old niece, received her first vaccine shot today!! Woohoo!!
How was the wedding?!?
So, after 5+ years of me asking, the husband is finally getting a vasectomy this week. I have an IUD, which I’ll still do because I had horrible periods prior and I still get a period (much milder). I’m glad we’ll be doubly protected though. I know of at least three woman who got pregnant with an IUD.
@Wendy, we had to cancel the trip :(. Work got crazy and I had to work over the Memorial Day weekend. SO BUMMED! I’m swamped through Friday, so I told my manager I was taking a day next week and not using any PTO. And on that day, I want to see the new Jurassic movie!!
Yay hfantods! It’s almost here.
I can barely keep up with the life I have now. I can’t begin to imagine a second one.
I don’t know of any crazy family secrets. I do have one aunt that trades up husbands. Each new, richer husband started as an affair while in a current marriage.
The husband’s mom is adopted. She has no desire to find her birth family. As far as she’s concerned, her family is her family. His maternal grandparents were pretty strong Catholics so we’re both guessing it was a young pregnancy type situation.
I don’t think it is about their own needs. I think the LWs mom is a piece is work. She was fine with her son visiting for six weeks. It’s when he said that he’s bringing his wife that it changed. And then the mom put everything on the LW to figure out. The only thing she did wrong is serve as the go between. This entire situation should have been figured out by her mom and her brother. She’s trying to appease everyone and smooth shit over. She should have never been the go between.
I also think the brother is a piece that of work.
Your SIL is right. Your mom and brother should talk. Not you. No, don’t tell your mom what you brother said. This needs to be between the two of them and that’s it.
In the future, don’t try to help by managing communications. Let people deal with it on their own.
Helping your mom look up things on the internet = OK!
Messaging someone else about what you’re doing = NOT OKAgain, this isn’t your problem. This is between your brother and your mom. There’s nothing for you to fix. There’s nothing you can say or do at this point. Let them work it out.
Of course your brother took offense to what happened. I would have too.
Helping your mom look for alternative accommodations was fine. You could tell her what you found and then she can decide what to do. Where it went south is you calling you brother and telling him what you were doing and the half truth why you were doing it. You should have let your mom handle it. They presumably know how to talk on the phone?
I agree with @passingny.
Your mom sounds completely toxic. She’s screaming at you. You have an estranged sister. For some reason, she has a problem with your brother’s partner. Does she hate women? Like what is going on.
I know you mean well, but it’s not working. You need to stop being the go between. Your brother knows what’s going on so you don’t have to contact him anymore. Tell your mom you’re sorry, but you can’t magically make hotels or Airbnb’s available. You did all you could. You’d be happy to fix up the house. But that’s it.
The biggest mistake you made here is that you made yourself the go between. All you really needed to do was tell your mom that nothing was available to rent when she asked you to look. Then you should have left it up to her to decide what to do and correspond with your brother accordingly.
I’m really not sure how you can fix it. In the future, don’t be a go between.
