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Good points. Our office manager is in one of the meetings I have today. I’ll say something to him and ask how I should handle. Thank goodness most of the days I need to be in the office are Monday’s so my desk is prob idle over the weekend.
And it is nerverwracking! So many people are claiming colds and allergies right now because they take a rapid test that shows negative, but who really knows. I’d personally err on the side of caution if I wasn’t feeling well.
I’m so annoyed. I’m in the office today for a couple meetings. While we have an open floor plan, we also have assigned seats. This is the second time I’ve been here in the last three weeks and someone has been using my desk. The monitors are all moved around and everything is unplugged from my docking station. Like, at least put it back the way you found it. They also either stole or threw away my coaster. I know, small thing, but still rude.
When I leave today, I’m going to leave a note? IDK?
I’m stoked. It’s a top 5 on my list of places to go so I’m so happy he picked there!!
I guess we’re “dinks” too. I just learned this term in January. 🙂
Ooh… has anyone heard from the lovely lady who started this thread? Ver, where are you? How are you? Do you still read?
Ooh. Speaking of sunscreen… does anyone have good recs for a reef safe, no chemical sunscreen? We’re going to the Galapagos this summer for the husband’s 40th and I want to be very conscious of their ecosystem.
I always wear sunscreen under my skin tint stuff too, even if it has SPF. I prefer the extra protection.
If you want to see her more, maybe a try a couple of low key hangs, like a walk or a lunch/coffee date? I’m not sure what all you’ve asked her to do.
I will say, the older I get, the harder it is for me to hang like I once did. I met up with my in-town bestie yesterday for some shopping and a cocktail and a similar topic came up. She’s single, no kids. I’m married, no kids and between work, travel, family obligations, other friends and downtime, we have a hard time finding time to get together, which we were commenting on. It’s a win for us if it’s once a month. That seems crazy, but that’s our life.
Since you’re a fairly new mom, now might be a good time to make some mom friends with people who have kids around the same age. That might meet some of your social needs.
I really like everything anonymousse said. Something else I’ve done as I’ve gotten older is surround myself with different people who meet different needs. My single girlfriend who likes cocktails and concerts is one example. I have my spa/trip friend. I have my childhood/comfort friend. I have my expensive dinner out friend. I have my outlandish friend for when I’m feeling bold. You get the idea.
FWIW, everyone but the childhood friend I met in my 30s. So it’s not unheard of to make friends as an adult. It just takes a little effort and a willingness to be open.
How could the LW possibly know how many women a week he actually sleeps with? She sees him flirting. How does she know he’s taking them home and having sex with him? Maybe there’s a couple women he has a FWB relationship with. Who really knows? And even if he did sleep with a couple of women a week, who cares? If women are throwing themselves at him, why shouldn’t he?
This thread is weird. If a man wrote in here saying he wanted to sleep with this beautiful woman who seems to get around (but hey, she’s beautiful!!), we would totally come down hard on him. Yet somehow, this dude is the bad guy?
Anyway, it is offputting that the LW thinks poorly of these women who flirt with him when in fact, she wants the exact same thing. Also, she clearly wants something more and is trying to pretend otherwise so she can get hers, which fine, but it only ends up in her being sad.
Again, I’m not a prude. I’m all for having hot sex with a hot dude. I’m cool with one night stands. I got around. The difference is, in all but one situation, I knew what I was doing and what I expected after. That one situation where I didn’t, I ended up going to therapy over it. But as ele4phant and I said, this is something that you’ll probably only learn from experience.
I’m not trying to be mean. I just don’t think you fully know what you’re trying to do here. I’ve been where you are. But I guess the best way is to learn for yourself.
I’m a decent/good person and in my 20s, while not in a relationship, I’d sleep around.
We’re telling you to be prepared for disappointment because your words are contradicting themselves. You’d be ok with a hookup or whatever you can get… but guys, he’s a good person and is good at communicating!! I mean, so? If you just want a hookup, why does it matter what kind of person he is? You should still use protection (condom for sure, and preferably birth control for you too) because you don’t know how many people he’s actually slept with.
I mean yeah, if you’re good with just a hookup, everything Kate said. I’m all for a fun hookup with an attractive man (well, before I met the husband that is).
If you’re at all secretly hoping for something more than a hookup or FWB, you’re likely going to get hurt or not have a satisfactory encounter.
Good luck. And make sure he wears a condom.
I think this LW is setting herself up for some heartache. Sure, she claims that she’d be ok with a purely sexual relationship, but at the same time, she wants to see if there is something more (also per her words, actually more of her words lean towards relationship than a FWB type situation).
LW, ask yourself if you are emotionally strong enough to handle sex only with this person if it doesn’t turn into something more. After you have sex with him, would you be ok seeing him flirting with other women? Possibly sleeping with them?
If you’re confident you can separate sex from emotional connection, go for it. If you don’t think you can, then I think you need to take it slow and try to go the talking to him / dating route.
I like that you can get a small sample at Sephora to check it out first. Since I’ve never really used any kind of foundation or CC cream, I might not be the best judge. It def evens everything out though.
