ktfran
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This whole introvert thing is extremely troublesome and weird. You mention it a lot.
Opening up and sharing information is not the same as accounting for your every movement. You do not need to tell him every time you leave the house and with whom. You’re not in prison. And it has nothing to do with being an introvert or extravert. I think you need to see a therapist because he has you convinced that you must tell him everything. You don’t.
I do not keep tabs on my husband. And vice versa. For all I know, he could be lunching everyday with new people. He’ll mention it if there’s something interesting to mention. He’s also not a big sharer, and I’m ok with that.
Add me to those who agree with Kate and that he probably strays.
Will do @Copa. I have a spreadsheet going of all the different cruiselines / ships. I’d be happy to share sometime.
A friend is going with us. Her last two continents to hit are South America and Antarctica. We’re her only friends that will be doing this trip (Antarctica), so she’s coming with! We actually also asked the gentlemen we met on our Galapagos trip, but the timing doesn’t work out. They were so much fun and make great vacation friends.
We always make friends on these big trips. The husband still exchanges texts with someone we met in Italy last summer.
I have to go to Austin at the end of the month for work and am staying a couple days extra. Besides that, we’re not leaving until our annual Hilton Head trip in the spring.
@Rangerchic, how fun!! We’re also doing an Alaskan cruise this summer, but not until June/July. We’re going with my parents and my in-laws. They all get along great, so should be a good time.
And @Copa, we’re doing Antarctica Jan 2025 for my 45th. We’re going on a ship that’s only for like 240 people. We’re booking that by mid-February.
In 2022, we did Galapagos for the husband’s 40th. That ship hosted 100 people.
I’m not a cruise person either, but there are certain trips where it makes sense. The only other on my bucket list is a German river cruise in December for Christmas market hopping.
Thanks Copa. The only reason I might say something is it happened it the fall too. We had brunch plans on a Saturday. She canceled because she was sick. But was posting the next day while out with friends. Time to reassess that friendship!
The sushi was delish. And last night the husband took me to Perilla, a place I’ve been wanting to try. It was so good. And the waitstaff was so nice. Definitely going back. We do have some kimchi fried rice and scallion pancakes left over!!
I’m making soup tonight so might venture to the pastry shop across the street for a baguette. This cold is yikes though. Two pairs of gloves and still that cold. Eek!
Off work topic.
My birthday is tomorrow. Last night, I invited my friends to meet up for sushi and to celebrate. Everyone but one made it, including two from the burbs. Weather has the excuse. Fair. It’s shitty weather. But I feel tonight is objectively worse than last night and she’s posting about a night out with a different friend.
Like, if you’re gonna cancel, don’t post.
Sorry. Needed to vent. I was about to send something passive aggressive but I think I’ll send a text tomorrow after I cool down.
Maybe my “in” this year should be Tik Tok? Because this is the second time today I’m learning about ins/outs. I had no clue!
My big out this year would be food waste. My big in would be declutter/decorate our condo that we’ve lived in for nearly 7 years.
What everyone else said. You can break up with anyone for any reason. I’d break up with him. I broke up with my college school boyfriend because he wanted to follow Widespread Panic or something. I wanted to start a career.
I wanted to address the line about your life plan though. You said you wanted kids in five years.
You need to relax your timeline. Life doesn’t always work out the way we want. I’m convinced that if you stick to these strict life milestones like marriage and kids by a certain age, you are more likely to choose the wrong partner. Of course sometimes it works out. A lot of times, it doesn’t and you end up either divorced or miserable. Picking a good partner who matches your values is more important than meeting arbitrary timelines.
I spent a little more on my sisters this year, but since their birthdays are Nov/Dec, I combined the two to get them the more expensive gift, a pretty lightweight robe with their birth month flowers. I got one for myself too. 😁
The nephew got a dinosaur. The three year old niece got a mermaid blanket and jewelry making kit. The 14 year old got a hoodie she wanted. The 18 years got a pair of socks and a pin, but she’s still coasting on her Italy trip. Presents will go back to normal next year.
The husband and I won’t do presents til I get back home. He still spends Xmas with his fam (as an only) and I like to be with my nieces and nephews.
That’s a great question and one I can’t unfortunately answer. My gut says you’re overthinking it. If they didn’t want to interact, they could not answer or do a fade, so I think you’re ok. I think it’s also ok to check in and ask. The older I get, the more I like being direct and asking tough questions instead of constantly over analyzing. It’s sometimes uncomfortable for a moment, but clears headspace.
I haven’t been in this situation. And nearly all my friends married later, think 35+, and so I weirdly don’t have divorced friends. My husband was married before me, and that ended badly/no kids so he had zero contact with her peeps. He won’t even talk about her to me.
Thanks everyone! They’re still working out some details and doing a little bit of reorganizing. I’m happy though!
I’m happy to report that my manger got promoted and starting January, will lead our region’s marketing team. We have three regions in the Americas. And I’m going to be promoted to her position!
They’re working out the details still, but was happy to hear.
Damn. Drunk elephant for young teens. High rollers!
Hfantods:
1. I don’t expect thank you cards for gifts I give in person. Saying thanks in the moment is enough for me.
2. I do buy gifts for my two sisters. I used to get their husbands gifts too, but as soon as they started having kids, I no longer bought for the husbands. I like picking out fun things for my sisters, so I’m happy to get them gifts. It brings me joy.
3. Husband varies. I usually get him a couple sweaters, some kind of book, something fun and silly and then go a little overboard on stocking stuffers.A couple years ago, I gifted him a small man purse. He wears glasses and wanted something he could walk around with that would hold his sunglasses. He still takes it on trips when we’ll be out all day. I carry smaller purses now so can’t fit his in mine. He loved it.
