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Yeah. I’m with @Kate. Unless most are from a larger city where people regularly use rideshares, they’d probably think fuck it and drive. Especially if they’re coming from smaller cities/rural areas. Even when I was in KC over Memorial Day, I was surprised how many people still drive after a day of drinking.
Agreed. If it won’t break the budget, I think it would be really nice to include. So many people get way more drunk at weddings than intended. For instance, me three Saturday’s ago. Sunday was YIKES! Luckily, the husband and I always take Uber.
EDT: We have to take a rideshare or cab (or bus or train or walk) because we don’t own a car.
EDT: I do think the shuttle or school bus option would be a lot easier if most people were staying at the same hotel. A friend did this for a wedding everyone had to travel to. It was a godsend. But everyone who attended the wedding stayed at the same hotel.
Let’s crash @veritek’s wedding brunch!
@kate. Amazing. And Wendy, also amazing about the backyard weddings. So much better than hate watching TLC wedding shows.
I just like that your dad in a Motown band.
OMG. What?!? I love it!!!
I remember your (EDT: Wendy’s) wedding fondly (from your stories obviously). And I’m pretty sure I took some cues from yours and adjusted to fit our needs…
@kate, a motown band sounds fun!I’m so happy you talked it out with future SIL and came to a resolution! If anything, hopefully this will bring you two closer together so you can have a friendly life as SILs.
FWIW, I’d totally go to a brunch wedding. I love what MG did in San Francisco! And Wendy’s sounded lovely. And mine was a blast. I occasionally hate watch that TLC show “Four Weddings” and mine would have received like zero points from the other brides.
Anyway, best wishes!
PS, if you go with the Nov wedding and happen to get pregnant shortly after, try to hold off on the announcement until after future SIL gets married.
I merely pointed out that the Disney wedding shouldn’t be super stressful for anyone involved. Nor should Veritek’s.
I’ve been to two weddings that were less than 8 weeks apart, one was for my sister and cousin (three weeks apart and all family traveled for both/nearly all of us live in different cities) and the other was me and a close friend that was 7 weeks apart. I was in my wedding then 7 weeks later I was in hers. And I planned her shower/bachelorette. We live in different cities. EDT: I was also planning a wedding with my ex fiancé the same time his sister was planning one. They were a couple months apart. I had my date picked first. And I was engaged first. I was nothing but happy for her and vice versa.
It’s only a problem if you make it a problem.
If you read what I wrote, I did say if it makes all the in-laws happy/keep peace, maybe consider changing. We don’t know that the future MIL is throwing a stink though, only the future SIL. Fiancé should talk with his parents and feel them out without sis present.
And like I said, I’d bet you lots of money sis wouldn’t be happy with anything less then them getting married after her. If I’m wrong then I’ll totally eat my words.
EDT: I’ve read your posts and Wendy’s word for word. Frankly, I’m baffled by yours, and I almost always agree with you both. Again, to show what I understood both of your viewpoints, read what I wrote about talking to parents/changing dates.
IDK, with the description of the two weddings, one that is a brunch and the other at Disney, I’m still not sure I see the problem. The future MIL won’t have to do much for Veritek’s. The future SIL doesn’t have to do anything. MIL also won’t have to do much for her daughter’s, the lovely people at Disney will. She won’t be able to have a wedding at Disney without going through their people/buying some kind of package.
The MIL technically shouldn’t be throwing the shower or bachelorette either.
I do think Veritek’s biggest mistake is mentioning “honeymooning” after future SIL’s.
@veritek, I’d be extremely curious to know if the future SIL would be ok if you got married this year/several months before her. When did she ask you to move to?
EDT: to keep the peace, I’d probably just see if I could move my wedding up Few months.
Right. It’s a smallish, brunch wedding. Hardly a big extravagant wedding affair that would outshine another wedding. (I think it sounds lovely @veritek). The only people overlapping are three guests.
I mean, when is the acceptable amount of time you should not “upstage” someone and put your life on hold? 3 months? 6 months? A year?
I actually remember that my ex-fiance’s older sister got engaged a few weeks after the ex-fiance and I did. She was going to plan her wedding for a couple of months after ours. I couldn’t have cared less! In the grand scheme of things, is what comes after, the marriage, the most important part?
EDT: When you think about it, they already put their engagement on hold to give his sister some “look at me” time. Now they have to put the wedding on hold? Or get married ASAP? And what’s next? If the future SIL gets pregnant first, do they have to wait a certain amount of time until after her baby is born to get pregnant? If this were a week or two, I’d probably advise differently. 8 weeks is plenty.
Savannah isn’t too far from Orlando! St. Augustine is pretty close and a lot cooler place than Orlando.
In “Mexico” at Epcot, there’s a tiny tequila bar called La Cava. It might seat like 20 people. This is my favorite place in all of Disney. Go, get a tequila flight, eat some chips and guac, relax!!
We did a family trip to Disney in March, my sisters wanted to take the nieces/nephew. The husband and I went along, didn’t love it, but that tequila bar was my reprieve from the masses.
