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@Kate no, I didn’t see him in March. Which has been hard, because it’s been almost 4 months since we’ve seen each other. But I’ll be there for 10 days in May, and he’s coming here for my birthday in the summer 🙂
Work kinda sucks, but I’m reminding myself to be grateful and just suck it up for now, because this place is definitely better than the last. I had to fight for my May vacation but I decided not to argue about how my paid time off is organized, since I’ll be leaving in the near future anyway.
And I’m slowly making progress with my own business goals.
It’s been a bit scary, all the changes that are coming up so quickly! But I’m also really excited!
Heading back to the UK in 2 weeks!!!!!!!
Theory was, since the bride’s parents paid for absolutely everything, FMIL wanted the party, etc and wanted to be spiteful by leaving bride’s parents on the hook for all the bills.
I don’t know how valid that theory is. Seems delusional that somebody would actually PLAN to break up AFTER the wedding just to have a party and stick someone else with the bill.
@shakeourtree if you KNOW he’s not the one, don’t go out with him again. It’s a waste of time (his and yours) and doesn’t feel very good in the end. I’ve been there.
If it was just “meh” and you don’t think there’s anything wrong with him but you just weren’t all that excited, I’d say give it a second date. By the end of the second date, I’m sure you KNOW if he’s not the one. Or, could be you’ll find something new and intriguing about him!
If you’re still “meh” after 2 dates, I wouldn’t force it.
But the thing is, even if you met Mr. Right tomorrow, those beliefs about yourself wouldn’t magically go away.
This is SO true. I believe I have met Mr. Right, but I do still struggle against my own internal beliefs about myself from time to time. I am so used to feeling “abandoned” by all of the men in my life. I have been conditioned to believe that all men will eventually leave me, because I’m just not good enough, and how could anybody possibly love me enough to actually want to commit to me?
It’s really hard, and even though I’ve been through years of counselling and even though I’m currently with a great guy who proves to me time and time again that he loves me and that he’ll always show up for me, I STILL have moments – sometimes even a few days at a time – where I struggle with my own insecurities and I have to remind myself to let go and to trust.
So, Kate’s right. It doesn’t just magically get better once you’ve found someone.
But I’ve been in your exact position, Ale. Like all of the feelings you describe, I have been there and I have felt them. It does get better, I promise. Keep going to counselling. If your previous counsellor wasn’t right for you, find somebody new.
Yes! Kitties will travel with me in the cabin. And yes I’ll likeky get something from the vet to make them drowsy, cuz it’s a long trip. Might also get a “calming” collar.
My oldest cat has been on the plane many times before but never a long distance. I’m nervous for them.
Nice! Yeah I can imagine being really excited and being ready for it right now haha. Once we get engaged I probably won’t want to wait I’ll just be like “k let’s go to the courthouse now please!” haha.
Nice! Excited for you about the photo booth! When is your big day?
Yes, I have to fill out alllllll kinds of paperwork to bring my cats. It’s a pain in the ass and I’m a bit nervous that I’ll miss something. They have to get vaccinations and blood work, they have to be microchipped, I have to fly into an approved point of entry on an approved airline… it’s all kinds of strict lol. I’m going to get some help from an immigration consultant to make sure I’ve got it all covered.
Oh I’m still around! Nothing new to announce, really. Just counting down the days til I see him again. Been talking to a realtor because I think I’m going to sell my house – I’ve done the math and it doesn’t make sense financially for me to rent it. Other than that… just plugging away at my side hustle and making plans to get pet passports for my kitties.
How goes wedding planning?
Not gonna lie, it makes me really fucking happy to see that I’m considered a success story hahaha.
I love #9!!
If he’s not even attempting to pick a date to see you again, he’s not interested. As you said, he’s happy enough to keep you on the hook so you’ll meet up with him whenever he eventually feels like it… he likes having you as an option.
But if he actually really liked you, he’d make arrangements to see you on a Thursday evening or something in between his hunting trips.
