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@Fyodor I thought maybe you just didn’t like your snow plain. Unfortunately it sounds a little too flavorful.

@Ange I’m glad you’re fine.

Most of the towns in the county where I live were built on the tops of hills. We have long glacial hills so a new town would fit on a hilltop. I’ve always assumed it was to avoid flooding and maybe mosquitoes. I’ve reached a point where I don’t think I would want to live at the bottom of a hill beside a creek.

Thanks for sharing! It’s been so long since I looked at wedding dresses and it is fun to see yours and hear what everyone thinks.

I personally love #2 and #3. The lines are flattering on you and overall quite beautiful.

@Copa She may feel that he’s involved with someone and she keeps checking your account because she thinks it might be you.

@Ale If he wanted to make it work he’d tell you what the obstacles were and then talk about ways to overcome those obstacles so that the two of you could be together. The fact that he throws out obstacles without trying to problem solve them tells you that he just wants them to be obstacles.

In my own relationship with my husband when we were dating we talked about our future as a couple. First we talked about what we wanted, which was marriage. Within months we were talking about when we wanted to get engaged. Then we looked at engagement rings and bought one even though we weren’t getting engaged yet. Then we got engaged as planned and picked a wedding date. We never picked names for hypothetical children. We did talk about whether we both wanted children and how many we thought we wanted but we didn’t name hypothetical future children. I think you can tell the difference. If everything is always hypothetical or always years in the future without any movement in the current time to make any of it actually happen they aren’t really committed to a future together. If there is actual movement toward the life together then you can assume that you are working toward a life together.

IF they buy a house without your knowledge they probably aren’t working toward a life together. If they apply for a job and take the job offer without discussing it with you then they probably aren’t working toward a life together. Do they keep making decisions as an individual or with their parents or do they make decisions with you as a couple does. You need to be partners before you get engaged and before you are married. The commitment needs to come first and you will see that by more and more working together as partners. You will find yourself discussing your decisions with them and making joint decisions that work for both of you. If that isn’t happening then you aren’t moving forward toward a joint life.

When leaving to travel abroad he may also be talking to his parents, letting them know what he’s doing and where he will be and giving them his flight information. Especially if traveling to that region I would want someone to know exactly where I was and when I would be there. If I was him I’d also try to talk to people who had taken similar jobs or done similar job interviews to see what to expect. All of that takes time and is all out of his ordinary routine. I’d assume that he had far less time than usual to talk to you. At the same time I would expect some quick updates. Something like giving my flight information and hotel reservation to my parents. Talking to a friend about the interview. It doesn’t take much to keep someone up to speed about what is happening.