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This letter is from a recent Savage Love column and it reminded me of our conversation last week about open relationships. I’m curious what your thoughts are on this issue and what your advice would be to the LW. I am wondering when the best time is to mention being in an open relationship to new girls. I’m a 27-year-old straight guy who’s been in an open relationship for six years. I often seek out extracurricular activities, but I am unsure of how to bring up my situation without doors closing. I wrote to a seduction blogger who often writes about open relationships, and his advice was to not mention it until…

I’m going through a really rough time at work, and I’m seriously considering finding a new job or just quitting all together. I can’t figure out if it’s just the job that’s so bad, or if the real problem is me and I’d take my same issues with me to a new job. I’m a 27-year-old mechanical engineer, and this is my second job out of college. I dread going into the office for work every day. When I’m away on business trips, which is increasingly becoming half the time, I am often overcome with anxiety and the complete inability to focus. I have endless lists of things that I need to…

Hello Wendy! I came across your website while Googling if it’s normal to feel sick after inhaling helium… just in case you were wondering and have lost your common sense, yes it is! Anyway, I read through some of your columns and decided to share my problem: I’m in love. I’m 20, and I’ve heard the “You’re too young to know what love is!” lines as well as the, “Fuck love, you’ll just get hurt” lines. But I know what I feel and I know this is real. You see, I love this amazing, wonderful, smart, down-to-earth guy. I look at him and I see my future. But…my parents won’t get over…

I have been in a wonderful relationship for almost two years now. Paul is the best man I have ever met in my life. I am 49 and he is 50. Since we met, we have had a long distant relationship as my work takes me all over the country for extended periods of time. I am very lucky that Paul is understanding about my work. We try to see each other every six weeks or so. This year I seem to be the one doing all the traveling to see him, though. I’m also concerned about how Paul’s kids affect our relationship. Paul has four kids, one of whom left before…

I recently got engaged to my boyfriend of eight years. We started dating freshman year of college when, at the time, he had just broken up senior year with his HS girlfriend, whom he also claimed was his best friend. They had broken up with the mutual agreement that they were both going off to college and it couldn’t work. I should note that, prior to their dating, his ex seriously dated one of his friends whom she later got back with in college and broke up with a year or two ago. Initially (eight years ago), I was very uncomfortable with their friendship. This was a girl who would reach out…