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My boyfriend and I have been together for one and a half years. He and I are 28 and 29, respectively, and I have three kids from my previous marriage. I told him from the start about my kids, and we took things very slowly in regards to his meeting them. Once we hit the six-month mark we decided it was ok for him to meet my oldest, who’s 6. The first six months of our relationship involved my divorce, and when that was finalized, I moved into my own apartment with my kids. He stayed over more and more. Then after a year of being a couple, he decided to move…

My husband left me last year in April for a girl he met at his gym. I had speculated that he was cheating on me and, lo and behold, I was right. He told me he didn’t love me anymore, and about two weeks later I found out he was in Florida with this girl. We had been married for three and a half years and together for a total of eight years. The Christmas before he left, when I was speculating that he was cheating on me, I snooped through his email and found a message in his inbox that shocked me. It was an email response to a Craigslist ad…

I have been in a relationship since 2014. It went pretty fast — we got married in 2016 and had two kids, back-to-back. My husband has two other children from a previous relationship who are now six and nine (I also have a 13-year-old). I have never met them!!! Last year, he took our two boys to meet them at his son’s football practice. And now, recently, he has mentioned he wants to plan a boys’ weekend (without me). His excuse is that he couldn’t tell his ex about me for a long time because she is jealous and wouldn’t have let him see the kids. In fact, he never told her…

My boyfriend, “Julio,” and I have been together for a year and a half. I don’t mean to sound selfish or ungrateful when I say this, but I feel like Julio doesn’t love me as much as his exes. On Christmas he spent $30 on underwear and gave me a gift card. Sure, I was thankful, but it wasn’t thoughtful at all, especially considering I went all out for him on Christmas and on his birthday before that. We even discussed how important these holidays meant to both of us. Then my birthday came around, and he got me nothing! We even split the bill for dinner and I paid the majority…

I have been with my boyfriend, “Ted,” for over a year and we now live together. Our relationship started in an iffy manner as I was just getting out of another relationship and I told Ted that I would have to wait a couple months before I could officially call him my boyfriend because I didn’t want people to talk. Later I found that during this time he was not only flirting with an ex but telling her the same things he was telling me (that he loves her, wanted to be with her, and so forth) and sending her nudes. When we started dating, he stopped flirting with her but never…

I am dating an Orthodox Jewish man I met on Facebook through mutual friends. He is careful with money to a fault; he lets me travel to see him because he needs a minyan which isn’t available in my area. He hasn’t offered to chip in but has told me he earns £81000 (about $105,097) a year and is due a large tax refund. When we were out shopping one day and I offered him £2 (about $2.60) for a box of candles I wanted as be was already in line, he took it. However, I took my children to his home for a week and he happily bought all the (kosher)…

I was in a relationship with a man (we will call him Greg) for over 2-1/2 years. The relationship was great for the first year. After that it was fraught with issues — mostly stemming from the fact that Greg had one foot in his prior marriage. Without going into detail, Greg was divorced. He lived at home with his ex-wife (we will call her Sheila) for the sake of co-patenting their children who have autism. However, their relationship was much closer than that of co-parents (more of a best friend situation where Greg would discuss our problems with Shiela. I felt that was inappropriate and we fought about it a lot)….

My husband and I are in an ethical and consensual non-monogamous marriage and have been for the last four years. We both identify as polyamorous. He has several other long-term partners that I have close platonic friendships with as well. However, my question is not about our relationship — I just wanted to give some context. In addition to my husband, I have a boyfriend, B, I have been dating for the past 11 months. B identifies as monogamous. He knew the deal completely when we started dating. I do not practice prescribed hierarchy, so I do my best to prioritize my marriage and my relationship with B as best as I…

About three months ago I realized I had feelings for my co-worker, Joe. He left our job but then came back years later. One night Joe asked me to come over to his house to hang out. We ended up Netflixing and chilling. It was great, but I worried about any awkwardness at work. So I decided to tell him that I have feelings for him and to ask him if he likes me. He said yes but that with everything he’s been through with his ex he’s trying to focus on himself. Then he led me on for the next month or so. We hooked up again. Then, out of the…

My boyfriend, “Ted,” is joining the military this year. He told me in June, and we have spent the months since learning about the military and training him for it and talking about what our relationship is going to have to go through. He wants to join an elite group at some point, and he recently reiterated the fact that I will not see him very much at all for six years. My problem is that he keeps telling me I don’t have to do this with him, I can leave and that’s ok. He even said he’s fine if we “ride this out till I deploy and then break up.” I…