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I (think) I have been un-asked to be a bridesmaid, and I do not know whether or how to acknowledge this without upsetting the bride. I would be most grateful for your thoughts as I am stuck, and it’s a relationship that I want to handle well, and I want to not create any negative feelings for the bride on such an important day. I was asked by the bride to-be, an old friend that I am most fond of but admittedly not close to, or see a lot of, to be bridesmaid. I was very touched and excited. She mentioned it again a few times at different meet-ups in the following…

I’ve been married to my wife for six years. Last year she had an affair and almost divorced me. Long story short, we worked out our issues, saved our marriage, and are pretty happy together now. I’m a romantic guy, and I always tell her how beautiful she is and how much I love her. I do a lot of housework, leave her special notes, cook for her, surprise her with flowers at work, etc. I’ve even asked her if she could attempt to be a little more romantic with me because it feels kind of flat in that department. She never does any of that stuff for me but tells me…

“He said he “knew it would cause a problem with me and didn’t feel like dealing with that,” so he didn’t tell me.”

“It’s three days later, I’ve heard nothing from him, and I’m still so upset. I asked him if he is sorry at all, and his response is that I’m over-reacting.”

“The boyfriend has made little to no effort to be close to our family. He has managed to isolate her from friends and anything social, and now us.”

I have been with my boyfriend for a year and a half now. I’m 39 and he is 44. His parents got a divorce when he was at the tender age of four (he was and is an only child). His mother was unhappy and not ready to be a mother, so she abandoned him for the next ten years and was not a part of his life. To this day she calls him weekly but he does not have any motherly connection with her, which he often feels guilty about. My boyfriend lived with his father and is not financially successful or stable. He studied law and has a JD, but…

My husband and I are expecting our first child in a couple of months (on Thanksgiving), and we are having some issues with my in-laws that I’m hoping you can help me with. My in-laws live out of state, and they are planning on coming into town to visit when the baby is born. I’m a pretty private person, and they can be very overwhelming. We’ve asked both families (mine is out of state as well) to please give us the first week to ourselves before coming to visit, but his parents told us they’re coming up for Thanksgiving anyway, because it is convenient for them and it’d be too difficult to…

I am divorced with two daughters, ages 15 and 12. My partner is divorced, too, but he has no kids. We have been together for two years now but only see each other twice a week. He wants marriage and kids. He speaks a lot about this. The thing that worries me is we can’t sort out when he will move in with me and my girls. He gets on with my youngest but not so much my eldest as she can be quite confident and forthcoming. I’m surprised he still likes me with my baggage. How do you make things work when things are like this? — Comes With Baggage