Updates

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today we hear from “Mr. Max” who wrote in last month because he was frustrated that after eight years with the same woman – and even living together! — she refused to put a label on their relationship and wanted to remain “uncommitted.” He wrote: “It’s taking a heavy toll on me emotionally and I’ve started to think that she probably doesn’t love me and I’m not sure if my love is enough to keep us together anymore. I’m on the…

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today we hear from “Cut Out Dad?” (LW2) who wrote in last week about her deadbeat dad and whether she was right to cut him out of her and her baby’s lives. “I love my dad, but I cannot stand the fact that he won’t take his balls out of his wife’s purse and stand up for his children. My sister and brother are depressed that they are being told that my dad doesn’t love them anymore and that he hopes…

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today we hear from “Got the Boot” (LW2) whose husband finally left her for a woman he’d been having an 11-month affair with after a string of other affairs during their 11-year marriage. She wrote: “It hasn’t been a year and now they are both all over social media stating how they’ve found “the one.” I’m heartbroken. Could it possibly be that he has found his true love? Is he now a better person, in a better relationship with a better…

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today we hear from “I’m With Him,” whose stepsister accused the LW’s husband of “grinding” on a younger cousin in the family. Both the cousin and the husband denied such a thing, but the stepsister was adamant that her daughter saw it and accused everyone of calling her daughter a liar. This led to various issues within the family, a slew of additional accusations, and the LW deciding she’d have to cut her stepsister out of her life. Below, an update…

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today we hear from “Looking for a Pretty Face” who was trying to get over an ex-boyfriend by slowly dating again. She started seeing a guy who had a lot of qualities she was looking for, but she didn’t think he was attractive or successful enough. She said she was confused about what to do since she “badly wanted someone” new in her life. Her update below.

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today we hear from “Fancifully Fretting” who was concerned about a relationship her boyfriend had with a close female friend of his, especially since he was hiding the fact that the friend was coming to visit. Find out if they overcame this issue and are still together in her update below.

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today we hear from “Invested,” who had invested $80K into helping his girlfriend maintain her lifestyle. She then asked him to buy a house for her and her mother and sister. He said he could not afford to pay for an entire house but could contribute $120K, which she thought was not enough. The LW writes: “I offered her a solution: I could pay for a rental apartment for her for one year, and when she finishes her school, we would…

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today we hear from “Going Broke Going to Weddings” who asked if it was necessary to buy a gift for a wedding (with no registry and where only cash is a suggested gift option) when she was already spending hundreds of dollars on traveling to the event and the bachelorette party. “I don’t know if I’m being an asshole thinking I shouldn’t be expected to also give a monetary gift? A lot of people say if it’s a good friend, then…

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today we hear from “Looking for a Way Out” who had recently retired and wanted to move out of California while his wife was adamant about staying in state and close to family. He wrote: “I have offered for us to periodically fly back to see family or take 700-mile drives (one way) from neighboring states. I said that if we moved, she could take an easier job, retire sooner, and have more of what she wants, all while not compromising…

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today we hear from “Waiting for the Turning Point” who was angry that her long-distance boyfriend showed his new house to a female friend (whom he’d been spending lots of time with) instead of waiting to show her the house first. Her update below.