Updates

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today we hear from “Lonely Gay,” whose boyfriend was upset that, after over a year together, the LW still hadn’t introduced him to his family. The LW only came out of the closet after he started dating his boyfriend, and he wrote: “It took time for my family to be comfortable with my being gay and it’s only been a year since I told them. He, on the other hand, has been out to most of his family for years and…

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today we hear from “One Confused Mama,” whose (religious) parents bought her a house for her and her daughter to live in after her husband left them. She had since divorced the husband, met a new man, and become pregnant before she and the new man had a chance to get engaged and move in together. She worried about how her parents would react. She wrote: “We both really love my house, but my parents own it and there is no…

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today we hear from “Totally Over It Bridesmaid” who was wondering whether there was a way she could get out of being a bridesmaid for her frenemy who was no longer speaking to her after a series of tiffs and misunderstandings. She updated back in May of 2015 saying she bowed out of the wedding party and had told the bride she didn’t want to be friends with her anymore but wished her well. Then she updated again a few months…

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today we hear from “Not Fond of Many People,” a mentally-challenged person who had a family member trying to stand in the way of her starting a relationship. “I don’t want him in trouble for dating me, and the family member threatened to get him locked up. I don’t want that — he means too much to me. Is there anything I can do?” Update below:

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today we hear from “Angry, I Think,” the LW from last week whose wife was groped by a neighbor friend at a NYE party. “I didn’t ask her how long he had his hand on her or if he had done this before; I suppose in hindsight I should have. We talked a bit more about it and chalked it up to alcohol, but in the past few days it’s been bothering me as I keep thinking about his hand on…

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today we hear from “Not a Fan of His Friends,” whose boyfriend of a year still hung out with his longtime, childhood friends — whom he considers “like family” — despite their gross disrespect of women and, specifically, of her. “Whenever we all hang out, I have to deal with non-stop banter about the sexual escapades of these friends and other inappropriate comments, which initially I let slide for the sake of getting along with the men. I have talked to…

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today we hear from “The Cheater’s Ex” who was angry that her ex, whom she continued to have a “friends with benefit” relationship with after their breakup, slept with her a few days before making things official with a new woman he’d been seeing. “I want to be able to continue the friendship we had when we first stopped dating because we still have so much in common, but now I can only see him as a cheater, on both me…

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today we hear from “Fed Up With Narcissistic Groom” who refused to pay for her daughter’s wedding to a man who insulted the amount she was able to contribute to said wedding: “Once they were engaged (July 2013), I presented them with a symbolic check (made out to “T…..’s Wedding”) for $5,000, which indicated the total amount which I would be contributing. He looked at the check and laughed, ‘Ha, I could save that much in a year, what with my…

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today we hear from “Not a Charity Case” whose sister basically ignored her save for a drop-by visit to her house every few months wherein she would shove money at the LW. “I lost my job two years ago, but we are by no means struggling financially. I want her to understand that she can’t leave money at my house. I don’t need the money and it makes me feel like a charity case. I am at my wit’s end!” Keep…