@courtney89 That’s kinda fun! You’ll have to let us know how it goes! I wouldn’t worry a ton about the age difference. You’d know already if he were immature and obnoxious. I was always okay dating younger and found that the age for how much younger got a bit wider as I got older (e.g., at 25, I didn’t want to date a 22 year old, but at 30, I would’ve been fine with a 27 year old). I almost always swiped left on people I knew in person.

I am honestly pretty jealous of Canadian Thanksgiving’s timing. I hate how close Thanksgiving and Christmas are for us. It makes an already busy, already stressful time of year busier and more stressful. I live in a different state from my family and holiday travel is expensive.

I am/was literally booked up every weekend from last weekend through the end of the year thanks to holiday crap. No thank you!

Ok – I was just typing up some stuff to say and a huge ass Lexus add popped up with no way to close the damn thing. It took up the entire middle of the screen. I even clicked on the add to see if that would work but it did not. I also have add blocker so I’m not sure what happened with that one. It’s happened to me before (though not in a long time) on other sites too (so not blaming the site or anything). Just expressing how annoying it is to have an add and no way to exit it.

So my ex wanted to chat last night, and we did, he told me he is leaving the city and moving back to the one we were living in prior to this move here. His work isn’t great, getting paid just enough and the work itself isn’t helping grow or learn more. He isn’t a fan of the city either, although we had discussed that before I broke up, so I knew he wasn’t a fan, but I guess after 4 months of him living in the city it hasn’t changed for him. He feels undervalued at his job, and his old workplace is apparently swamped with work and so he found out through an old coworker and was offered a position to go back there. He is leaving early December from what he told me.

Reason he wanted to talk, the apartment we were renting together will have to be sublet as it is still under the 1 year rental agreement, and since my name is still on it, he asked me that in the worst case scenario if I could show the place if it is still vacant after he leaves. At first I said yes since I am still on the agreement (should have asked to be taken off), but now I am thinking if worst case scenario does happen, to see if he can get a friend to do it for him. I think it is a little unfair to wrap me back into this after he leaves and has me deal with a place I no longer contribute to. In addition the tenancy bylaws require the landlord to show the place, and not the past tenants, so hoping he can stronghold the landlord if he insists so I don’t get wrapped up in it.

Alas, a lot of emotions were felt yesterday. As much as he has no reason to stay (in his own words), a part of me is still emotional and attached (only been 2 months), and so it was hard to hear the figurative door really slam close at the knowledge of him moving back across province to work and live, and really being separated and distanced from him. We haven’t talked up until yesterday, so we are keeping our word to remain unattached. But I think I still liked the knowledge of him being around the city and having some connection that way. A lot has changed in the last 4 months for him, moving, new job, new city, breakup and now moving again, and I can only imagine how he is managing and dealing with it. So my worries and sadness pale in comparison and I guess are selfish to feel upset on him leaving. But I wasn’t expecting it to happen so soon after. I knew he didn’t like the city and wondered if it would happen (him leaving), but not for a year at least. It just sucks.

Hmm. Well, you ARE still on the lease, so I don’t know that it’s unfair to ask you to help (especially since you could still be held accountable for the place under the agreement). I also wonder if, after four months, he has close friends to ask to do a big favor like this for. You may well be the one person he actually felt comfortable enough to ask.

If it is in the bylaws that the management company must show the place, then that is the route you should both take notwithstanding.

Is breaking the lease an option? I once moved just a few months into a 12-month lease and was surprised at how accommodating management was.

Well, I hope it won’t come to the worse case scenario and that you won’t have to be involved! I’m sorry the break-up still hurts, but I think that’s pretty normal. Don’t beat yourself up too much!