“My Boyfriend’s Too Close with His Brother’s Girlfriend”
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This has been going on for two years? Since the brother started dated this girl? If so, why have you been allowing yourself to be put second for so long.
Which means you probably will not MOA.
Sigh
If she’s not going to be seeing these people anymore, why not blow the whole situation up? There’s some seriously weird sh*t going on. Draw everyone’s attention to it and then skip out. Go out with a bang.
I gotta say, I kind of agree with Fyodor. The bf and the brother’s gf are both being shitty. The brother doesn’t deserve that behaviour, I’m sure. Toss the grenade then run like he’ll.
“Won’t get her anywhere though, they’ll all just be like, “what a psycho bitch.”
Maybe. But I have to imagine that, if she’s accurately recounting what’s going on, that she’s not the only one that has noticed weirdness between the two of them. She can stir everything up and leave some impressive wreckage in her wake.
She can try, I guess. Families are unlikely to acknowledge dysfunction like that though – more likely to lash out at the person pointing the finger. I’d just dump the boyfriend and tell him exactly why, and maybe say something to the brother on my way out, probably not.
If anyone said you cannot talk to me about something otherwise I will leave the relationship – that is enough reason to walk. It’s telling that that is his ultimatum. That is what is so important to him that talking about it with you would be the end of your relationship. You already know what the deal is. You might not have video evidence but you know. Time to leave.
I’d leave but I’d do it with dignity. Blowing up will make you look psycho and help to cover what they’re doing. If someone asks why you broke up then you can decide whether to tell them or not. I think a big scene would be something that you would always regret, not that you’ve even hinted at doing that. Don’t let your sleazy boyfriend take your dignity. A huge blow up will make you look bad and would ruin whatever special occasion was occurring and would be a terrible thing to do to whoever was hosting it and hurt whatever or whoever was being celebrated. You have to consider how inappropriate it would be to ruin a wedding or birthday or anniversary to get your revenge on your boyfriend. All the collateral damage is unacceptable. Go with grace and dignity but go. There is no place for you in this relationship.
