So I “met” this guy on an online forum after he commented on a post of mine. I was looking for advice on what to do about this guy I liked and he came with really helpful advice. We started private messaging just about my situation, but then things got more personal. We talked about our past relationships, hobbies, interest etc. We talked about controversial topics and shared our beliefs. I told him about insecurities of mine and vise versa. It got fairly personal really quickly but we both enjoyed talking to each other. We both told each other that it was very unlike ourselves to get so personal with someone so quickly but in his words there was something “different” about me. We communicated pretty much all day. He mentioned early on that he was married and once we exchanged first and last names I saw pictures of him and his wife. Early on he talked about the fact that him and his wife are in an open relationship and that their relationship was “different”. We had a discussion about open relationships and I asked him how it worked and he gladly told me about it.

One day the topic of snapchat came up and we exchanged usernames and added each other on there. That same night he sent me a picture of one of his tattoos (we had talked about it and how I wanted to see what it looked like) and the next day he told me he was drunk. From then on our conversations have been on snapchat. We’ve talked almost everyday since and usually throughout the whole day (must add we’ve only been talking for a little less than two months). He talks about his wife a decent amount, and has shared to me about her own issues. He has told me that he’s not happy right now in his marriage, because his wife isn’t happy right now but he promises he’s not leaving her and that he loves her with his heart. He’s shared to me how they met, and has told me how much he loves her.

I really enjoy talking to him and he’s told me he enjoys talking to me too. It’s never gotten sexual, or even flirty really. We’ve complimented each other on certain things but that’s about it. My issue is I don’t know if what I’m doing is right. He’s told me intimate details about their relationship and their troubles and I’m always there to listen to him and I’ve never told him that it makes me uncomfortable but it kind of does. I also feel like I may be starting to get feelings for him (or maybe the idea of him?) which makes it more complicated. I really look forward to talking to him, and I’ve told him things I’ve never told anyone before. I think our relationship really serves as a way for us to both have someone to vent to, and just talk to throughout the day and nothing more, but I really like him. It also doesn’t help that physically, he’s very attractive too. I guess my question is should I feel bad? We’re really just talking and have made no plans of meeting (we live in two different states). A part of me considers this to be emotional cheating in a way, but since their relationship is open, I suppose that’s not really a thing. Idk what to do, I don’t want to stop talking to him but I also don’t know if this relationship is “appropriate”. Over the last week or so it’s been pretty distant and I have a feeling something may have happened. We went from talking all the time to now hours go by or even a whole day and nothing. Our conversation has the same tone but it just feels different since we’re talking much less than we use to. I don’t know if I’m crazy, I don’t know if it’s just the little voice in my head but it feels different. Should I just stop talking to him? How would I even go about that? I do believe that his relationship is open, we’ve only been honest with each other and I think if it was something else it would have gotten flirty.