Talking to a married man, am I wrong?
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The way people have been coming at me makes me sound like my main goal is to be his mistress or something.
you think he wanted me to say to leave her? I would never say that. We talked more today and he told me he was sick this weekend. That would explain the lack of communication really. I really hope thats not the case though, because I wouldn’t tell him that. I told him to try couples therapy and he said he doesn’t think they need it and that he needs to just focus on something else to stop being frustrated and I told him to basically pick a hobby. I really don’t think thats what he wanted me to say, but who knows.
What is inappropriate is the amount if time you spend talking and texting him. All day communication is reserved for intimate relationships. He has told you things he shouldn’t. He has also taken time and attention away from his wife for you. It’s wrong of him. And it’s wrong of you. If you were married, there is no way you would be okay with your husband doing and saying what this guy is doing and saying to you.
You keep harping on about his open marriage. I’ll bet the money in my bank account his marriage isn’t open. You need a fairly strong relationship to be able to open it and no wife is agreeing to him creating emotional intimacy with another woman that involves breaking the wife’s confidence. It makes no sense. Maybe you don’t *know* he is lying. But you don’t know he is telling the truth either and you have abandoned what common sense would tell you is the likely truth.
You are being a shitty person because you like the attention. You aren’t the first. Most of us have gone through something similar. Don’t waste your time and don’t be a villian in the wife’s story.You already know what you are doing is wrong.
Tell him you’ve realized that talking to him is inappropriate and your time would be better spent otherwise. Take care and all the best.
Block,delete and be a better person next time.I think the reason the communication has been cut is maybe because he’s starting to see that? which is more than okay. I didn’t think it was wrong of me, especially considering the context of our conversations. They did get deep, and I guess you can use the word intimate. In my head that was fine because it was just friendly.
The only reason I believe that it’s open is because he told me this in the beginning of our conversations. Had this been brought up later on I would be more suspicious.I never considered he would be lying until now honestly.If this is the first time you are considering he might be lying…you are naive. Incredibly naive. Like, take a step back from messaging strangers online naive. Seriously.
You have never met this man, yet spend all day talking to him. Please volunteer somewhere for a cause you care about. You’ll get more in return, I promise. And you just might meet someone in real life.I mean yes did the idea that he could be lying cross my mind? absolutely. But I never really considered it especially since he seems to be honest and I’ve never been anything but honest with him. I’m very active in my community actually. I don’t know why you’re under the impression that all I do is sit around and wait to talk to him, or that I live some sad lonely life. I have friends, and I have hobbies and etc.
Gosh, idk, maybe because your first few posts said you’d been snapchatting with him all day every day and that it would suck not having someone to talk to and that you want this random married online stranger man to be your companion.
are the two mutually exclusive? can I not live a productive, active life while talking to him all day? Regardless, like I said we’ve been talking less throughout the day. I don’t feel bad for enjoying talking to him, especially since the conversation has almost always been appropriate. If we were sexting, or flirting, or making plans to meet up then one I wouldn’t do that, and two IF I did, I would feel bad. Obviously none of you have read our messages so I don’t know what you’re thinking they consist of, but they are harmless.
Good lord. You wrote in asking if it was wrong. The consensus is yes! It is wrong to spend all day texting a married man. If you don’t agree, fine, keep texting a married man you admit to have feelings for.
It’s doesn’t matter what the content is (although him texting about his marriage problems is inappropriate) you are playing with fire. It’s already making you feel uncomfortable. And now you’re sad he hasn’t been responding so quickly.
I could have done without the attacks on my character, and the shaming from others. If the consensus is that yes, regardless of content that it’s wrong to talk to him then fair enough. I’m having trouble fully understanding that. I’m not saying you all are crazy, wrong, or far fetched- not at all. It just seemed like everyone is so quick to make me seem like a terrible person, or that I’m acting like some mistress which is not me.
Please stop with the terrible person and mistress stuff. Nobody said that. Everyone was basing their opinion on what you told us. Yes, what you two are doing is wrong, ok? It is wrong for a married man to get into intense chat exchanges with a strange girl he meets online and get really personal and share details about his marital problems. He has problems in his marriage. Obviously it’s not some open, healthy, progressive situation. And you’re being part of the problem by enabling his need for attention and distraction outside the marriage. I also think he’s bored with talking to you now. You fulfilled your purpose as a temporary source of attention and a place to vent. Honestly he’s probably looking for sexts and nudes and he’s not getting that from you. Meanwhile, what are you getting right now? Nothing. Fading texts, that’s it. Just end this, it’s dumb and pointless.
That is what I felt was being insinuated. I can see your point on me enabling him, you’re right. I will be ending it, most likely soon. Like I stated earlier, I respect everyone’s input I really do. I didn’t think it was wrong really, but I know it was inappropriate for him to talk about his marital issues. I don’t want to be an issue in someones life or marriage or whatever so I’ll fade away.
