Uncle or father? I don't want him to be her dad. I need advice.
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ronDecember 27, 2018 at 10:10 am #813312
That’s very true, JD. It was Hannah, or whatever her name actually is, who painted a thoroughly distasteful picture of both of her sons and now she has the temerity to say that she is sickened by BGM’s comment about her dead son.
Hannah lives in her own world of insanity. Most people and societies gave up human sacrifice a very long time ago, and yet Hannah expected sympathy for her plan to sacrifice an infant to save her violent, drug-addicted, ex-con son. She is surprised people are horrified by her plan.
HannahDecember 27, 2018 at 1:56 pm #813331Kate- My son is a good person. He got mixed up with the wrong crowd and continued on a downward spiral from there. I didn’t raise my sons to think that violence or drugs is okay. The only time he’s abusive is when he’s been drinking. If he’s sober, he is completely different. He never did get over the loss of his brother and I’m well aware that he needs help. He’s been suicidal throughout the years and I’ve worried myself to death over him. I can’t bare to lose another son.
Of course when this woman came out of the woodwork claiming that one of my son’s fathered her child, I freaked out. She had also sent pictures of this little girl and there was no denying that this was my granddaughter. I just knew that this little girl might just change my son’s life for the better. I know of people that have done a complete 180 as soon as they become parents. I don’t see anything wrong with me thinking that she might give him a more positive spin on life. He would have something to live for. The mother is trying to pull away lately and has become distant. I don’t blame her. She keeps insisting that my dead son is the father. At this point, I would like to think that maybe he is. At least there would still be a part of him that’s here. I’m just overwhelmed with everything and overall I don’t think that my son needs to fight for custody. I don’t have money for lawyers and even if I did, I believe that he needs to slow down. I’m trying to think of a good approach to get my son to do another paternity test THIS time testing more markers. It’s the most that I can do for the mother of my granddaughter.
The MOST you can do for your granddaughter is to stop pushing regarding which one is the father. It literally DOES NOT matter.
From what i remember of the first time you wrote in, a dna test was done that they thought showed your deceased son as the father but then you pushed and pushed for another one that now shows your living son as the father and now you want to push again to prove it back to how it was originally? This is crazy and obsessive. Leave it be.
THERAPY for both you and your son individually would really help you both.
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