Dear Wendy
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Ah, one day when I am an empty-nester and the kids’ college is paid for, I will join in on these convos about weekly manicures and beach vacations (we spent a small fortune on our beach vacation to grand cayman last February and justified it bc of all the $$ we saved not leaving our house for the first year of the pandemic, but when your availability to travel is limited to NYC public school breaks and the airlines triple flight costs to any island during that week, its just not in the cards for most of us). And I’ve had probably five professional manicures in the past ten years, none of which has been anything other than just a normal manicure (no gel or anything like that). Sometimes I feel like I’m reading about life on another planet (but it’s interesting and gives me something to look forward to one day!).
Oh, I missed these when you posted. You look great! Thanks for sharing. I can definitely see a difference.
But him telling you he doesn’t want you working from home isn’t about money. You don’t lose money in that scenario and you may save money (no commuting costs) – at least enough to cancel
The minimal extra expense of electricity and heat or whatever. There’s something else going on besides stress about money.
Yeah, something weird is going on. At the very least, he’s being controlling, mean, and irrational. This cannot continue. Counseling could help. But you might want to think about a trial separation too. This might mean selling the house you just bought or renting it out and each of you living somewhere else, separately. I know that’s not a decision one jumps to, but I think this should be something to very seriously consider if things aren’t pretty significantly better or on a steep positive trajectory in six months. The way your husband is treating you isn’t the way a loving partner treats a spouse. You shouldn’t tolerate it anymore.
Sounds like he thinks he has a lot of veto power!
Yeah, I’m confused about why its such a big deal that you go from 2-3 days to 5 days a week working from home. I wondered if jealousy is part of it and I also wonder if he’s doing something at home on those days you’re at work that he doesn’t want you to know about? Is that at all possible? Does he work at home at all, or come home during the day (like for lunch) or get home earlier than you or leave later? I could maybe see if having his alone time routine disrupted might be upsetting if he really needs that time for his well being.
Ooh, I’d like to see your before and after pics! I really hate the hollows under my eyes and if I ever did any kind of injection, it would like be a tiny bit of filler in those spots. But I’m pretty nervous about doing anything like that, so I don’t know.
Yeah, need more details here. In general, it’s become pretty common over the last three years for people to work from home at least some of the time, and for people to convert a space or room in their homes to office use or to even rent an office somewhere or join one of those shared office space coops. If turning part of your home – and why “his” home? – into an office bugs your husband so much (and he may well have good reason for this), it’s worth discussing with your boss reimbursement for an alternative near your home.
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Copa, how often would you need to get the under eye filler done in order to maintain the results?
Am I losing my mind? I could’ve sworn I left a comment here – about trying L’Oreal True Match – but now I don’t see it?
Anyway, at the risk of repeating myself: I got the L’oreal True Match after you all were talking about it and I tried it this morning and I like it! I’ve worn foundation a handful of times in the past 30 years – I hate the way it feels and don’t like the way it looks on me – but something made me think this stuff would feel more like moisturizer than makeup and it does! It’s very sheer and lightweight, which I love, and the coverage is good. Not sure I’ll wear it daily but I like it as an option for when I want to look a little more pulled together than my everyday look (which is generally pretty pulled-together anyway, just with no foundation of any kind, usually).
I also haven’t had any botox or filler and doubt I will – I’m already 46 – but never say never, I guess. I did get some laser treatment on my freckles/ sun spots a few years ago. I guess its been four years now. And I’m so glad I did that and I would definitely do it again if I feel the need. I’d also like to get my teeth whitened but I do a thing at home that I got from my dentist and required getting a mold made of my mouth. I’m supposed to do this treatment – it’s a five day treatment, one hour each night – every six months and it’s probably been 18 months since I last did it and I can tell. I gotta do it this week, for real.
I don’t get my hair colored and I rarely every get my nails do. But I do get a good haircut every 3 months or so and I wear make-up nearly every day, even if I don’t go anywhere, I just like to wear it. I don’t wear foundation though; I hate foundation.
