@JulieCatherine is on point here. The letter writer doesn’t need to be lectured about her drinking here. She needs to be assured that her feelings of violation are warranted and that this wasn’t her fault. The only person at fault here is her shitheel friend, who probably doesn’t even think he did anything wrong.
The writer didn’t ask “Do I have a drinking problem?”. This guy saw she was vulnerable, saw the opportunity to feed her shots, made a lame excuse to spend the night and unquestionably took advantage.
The letter writer mentions nothing about her drinking habits besides this incident and many people here are ABSOLUTELY telling her this is her fault. And it’s a load of Grade-A. B.S.
…yeah…that “princess” stuff doesn’t really fly these days because it’s reductive. The implication is that girls/women are precious little things that need to be cherished and protected instead of…people…
If you honestly want to tell this story and get a better reaction, after you “put the bully in his place”, just says that you know it’s kind of fucked up but you don’t really regret it. Leave out the nonsense about getting cheered and the flirting and the knight stuff because it’s unbelievable.
Then go learn some feminism, my man.
I’m in the same boat as your boyfriend (7 year old child with previous wife and remarried). If my newer partner needed to be notified any time I had communication with the mother I’d go nuts. That’s really insulting. Parenting requires a lot of communication. If you can’t accept that, dating someone with a kid isn’t for you.
Agree with the consensus here. I don’t see this as being wishy-washy. This is hesitancy because it seems like you are being pressured into something you are clearly not ready for.