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I don’t think I’ve ever heard my parents say that they think my boyfriend is a good guy. I have noticed that they are inviting us over for a casual dinner. My mom also recently told me to invite my boyfriend to my dad’s birthday meal without me asking. So these things to me say they like him. I think you’re normal to want your family to be enthusiastic, copa; it may just be them and the distance.
Also as you might remember, when I first started dating my boyfriend I had sone doubts, which I still feel a little guilty about, and so I know my mom didn’t want to influence me. Not that that applies to you at all, copa.
Agh sorry to hear that Kate. Yeah going out for a meal would be good. Just super sad.
This is off topic but I know there are some dog owners here. My friend found out her dog has an aggressive cancer. About two more months expected. The dog is only five years old. So sad. The dog seems still normal now so I am glad he doesn’t “know” but he can deteriorate quickly. Once again I am not sure what to do.
Alright folks, my boyfriend helped me plunge my toilet recently. Firstly I felt inept as an adult human being but also it was embarrassing. However we both plunged in good cheer haha.
Been following on, but haven’t had much of a chance to comment, so everything is a little belated. Happy birthday ktfran! Hope everyone has a great time on their trips/doing the trip planning. I am sorry to hear about your sister Ale, but I’m glad that it’s relatively early on.
I have to return the desk decorations discussion. I feel weird that I haven’t put up my any photos and barely decorated other than diplomas. It’s mostly out of laziness and I should put up some art. Ultimately it’s a know your workplace thing!
Also I think I told my boss about my boyfriend almost two years in when he invited me and a guest to a work adjacent event. It never really came up in conversation. I suspected he knew but I felt weird for not mentioning my boyfriend before. I think I used the royal we a lot. My coworkers around my age knew fairly early on, partly because they are nosy in a friendly but annoying way and I’m bad at lying. They asked me lots of personal questions when I was single and dating. They share a lot too so I feel I have to share some tidbits.
My boyfriend and I are going to the Dominican with his friends in February for a week. I’m looking forward to it because I’ve never done a resort trip and it’ll be fun. I realize now though just with timing and all it’ll be hard to do a longer trip with my boyfriend this year. Our longest trip so far is five days.
Things are still going well with me and my bf. I’ve always had nosebleeds but due to some medication they’ve been happening more and he’s been a real champ through it all, because even though I’m not phased by my own blood, it’s not the most pleasant!
Oh Ver, I’d want to take the high road too but that would only be if she were rational. After what she pulled in August, it makes sense if you don’t want to.
That all sounds fun @copa!
I’m Canadian so no Thanksgiving here. Definitely seems early this year though. Sort of like @copa I am still meeting my bf’s friends from high school who are out of town. He went on a guy’s trip this weekend and I made sure to get to his place before they dropped him off so I could meet one of them. Maybe that scored my some points.
My boyfriend invited me to his extended family’s Christmas gathering. I went last year. There are a lot of people but overall a fun group. Makes me kind of sad that in recent years my extended family don’t really celebrate Christmas together as people have their own families. My boyfriend hasn’t met my extended family yet due to timing, and I’d like him to at least meet my cousins. I might have to organize something myself heh. There will be a Chinese New Year thing next year which maybe he can attend.
Lastly our parents are meeting for the first time next weekend! Ahhh, haha. I hope it goes well. I like his parents. I hope my dad doesn’t say something silly heh. My mom is pretty good in these situations.
Hey @scorpio, I am so sorry to hear about your break up. I just wish you lots of love and strength. I hope your no contact can go smoothly from here.
Haha @copa of course you’re not “stealing my thunder”! Excited for you. And maybe you will get a firmer commitment by the time your lease is up 🙂
Thanks all for your thoughts. We are both renting right now. We have to consider our commute too since our workplaces are in opposite directions. I also actually have been saving for a down payment but I haven’t seen something I liked/could afford so I am still renting. But I wouldn’t buy a house together if I weren’t married or at least engaged and especially not having lived together before.
Sorry again you have to go through this @Cleo. I agree with what people have said. Even internally having this in your head may affect you moving on. It sucks that maybe you may be the impetus of him improving himself but he didn’t do it while you were still together.
Could I also bounce some ideas around with you folks? My boyfriend has been back to his “normal job” for a month. We basically meet up once during the week and spend most of the weekend together. I realize I miss him more. I liked waking up together on weekdays. It’s starting to make me think about moving in together. My boyfriend has been the one bringing up the conversation in the past. We haven’t talked about it seriously because he’s been on the project. My parents are very traditional. At this point there’s nothing for them to say if we move in together but I’d have to get over the mental block. I pulled up Wendy’s list of things to do of course. We are at the financial stage and the what happens if we break up. I just feel so naive because I always thought about prenups and the like but when it’s really your own relationship it’s harder to distance yourself because I obviously don’t plan on breaking up. Any suggestions for these discussions or the terms?
I think that’s a great idea!! And congrats!
@cleo, absolutely, never a right time—- always a trip, concert or birthday coming up. I don’t know the details of my friend’s breakup. Regardless of any decision, you will wonder but we make them and move on.
Omg.. totally might be possible. I edited some details for my own sake, totally forget that this little nook is still the Internet. Well there are always to sides to a break up.. still sad all around.
