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Happy belated, veritek and Liane!!

I also don’t think the 4-5 weeks thing is necessarily bad. It sucks, but it seems like he is legitimately busy. It’s hard to plan things that far in advance, I think, so he has time do some working out in his head how he wants to see you again. That said, after (if) you tell him that 4-5 weeks is too bad or something like that and in a couple days he doesn’t bring up an alternative meeting time, then maybe you can reevaluate.

Also want to add that ktfran, a note sounds lovely if you aren’t ready to say something spontaneously.

Relative to the question I asked last week, thanks again for your comments. Weirdly I don’t think he jumped into exclusitivity necessarily for sex (although maybe I am being naive and maybe that’s partly it). I know one of his friends is getting married and another close friend recently got engaged. So I almost get the feeling he wants to get into a exclusive relationship sooner than later because his friends are in really committed relationships. Which doesn’t make it better or worse but just how I am feeling this.

He said he was going to be out of town for the weekend that just passed so I made plans really for the whole weekend but then he cancelled the trip (it was raining and he was going to go camping). We talked on the phone though. I still haven’t “solved the problem” of whether I’m into him or not/is this moving too fast for me, but I’ll let you folks know how it works out.

Hope tonight’s date went well Money!!

So this thread is a little quiet, because it seems that some of you are going on awesome dates, which I LOVE! I’m so happy how things change over a month and a half.

I did just want to give a quick update since I can’t be this neurotic with my gal pals. Went on a fourth date with Tinder Finance Guy to the Canadian National Exhibition which I think is similar to a state fair from what I hear about state fairs? We had a lot of fun, played games, watched a dog show, walked around, etc.

Then over some greasy food, he brought up that we’d been on four dates now and we should know whether we were interested in each other or not and he didn’t want either of us to waste time if we weren’t interested. He said he liked me but he couldn’t tell whether I liked him. He said I could think about it and let him know, but I told him then that I liked him and was interested in spending more time with him, but I can be more reserved. And I also told him that with school/work, I’ve gone on dates but haven’t had a boyfriend so this is new to me. So I guess we are really going to try this out!

He texted me just now about getting home safe etc. and he said sorry for not kissing me yet but it’s hard to find the right moment at public festivals, which true… I’m so glad he texted me because I was kind of expecting it by now, and was worried something was wrong with me, but it’s all ok! Except, um, guys? I’m 26 and I’ve never kissed someone before, like not even at a party or anything. Sooo, umm, help? Haha. And also just how to show more interest?

Yeah, it’s a bit of a mix of not feeling comfortable with compliments and then also moving too quickly kind of thing. That said, my third date with Tinder Finance Guy went pretty well today and I’m feeling more comfortable with him. I went over to his place in the morning and he made us breakfast including a lot of cut fruit/fruit arrangement, which was kind of impressive. Then we went to a street festival.

Later on he asked if I wanted to continue to hang out and I said yeah and he said he did too, so things seem to be progressing! We haven’t had a night time date and physically there’s not much yet. I do want to take things slowly but I guess that’s the next step.

Once again, I’m glad to get some more opinions on dates. On further reflection, it wasn’t even just a foot in mouth slip of tongue, it was a joke and to me it felt patronizing. Maybe to other people it wouldn’t but ultimately it’s how I feel and my comfort. I didn’t end up sending a “nice to know you text” today. If he reaches out after he gets back, I’ll let him know I’m not interested. There are other reasons as well.

No, he wasn’t the one that I thought about changing the Ottawa trip for (and I’m not! and that guy says he still wants to see me so we’re sorting out schedules).

@Catty, happy to hear about your date! Were you at a boardgames cafe or something for dinner?

[OT: I got a job offer today!! Going to talk terms tomorrow. Ahh, a little nervous.]

Yeah you are all very logical. I like my life hanging out with friends and even by myself; I don’t want to lose that.

Hahaha, if appropriate, please keep us posted if ktfran knows Tinder Teacher.