Kate
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Thank you. The not being able to cook, the people being in and out, the noise when I’m on zoom all day, it’s just a lot right now.
So, my kitchen just got trashed. The neighbor upstairs was having a dishwasher installed, but didn’t mention it to the building manager, and didn’t turn the water off. Suddenly I hear water pouring down, so I go in the kitchen and it’s coming through the ceiling in a torrent. And then it started breaking through in multiple areas. I went upstairs in a panic and that’s when I heard about the dishwasher. The super turned the main water off but it took a while. So yeah, it’s absolutely trashed, and I almost had a total panic attack because this is happening in a pandemic. I also had to do a presentation so I kept it together. But I wanted to just cry. The super sent a crew over from a cleanup company and they showed up and set up those big fans. That will go on for 3 days, and I’m not even sure if we can cook after that. And then renovations. Insurance will cover it, but this is just fucked. Also the water is off in the bathrooms. I’m working in a hotel room around the block right now. I feel somewhat traumatized.
I handle the saving and investing accounts (some are separate and some joint but they’re all visible under my dashboard). He pays some bills and I pay some bills. We do one settle-up at the end of each month that takes us 10 minutes each.
The reason that’s probably so quick & easy is I track all my spending in a budget planner, and he keeps his receipts.
It’s very easy and smooth. No special reason we don’t have a joint checking account, just never got around to it and we both had all our own shit already set up.
L.A. has been looking like a nightmare on the news. I’m so sorry that’s happening.
I am concerned AF too about Wednesday. I think Biden and Harris need to prove they are not afraid, and they trust the Secret Service who’s in charge of everything. But yeah. Fuck.
Ugh. I was taking a walk and this guy outside of Walgreens stopped me. I realized it’s the same guy who a couple months back told me he needed a razor and a belt and something to eat, so I had gone home and got him some stuff. This time he needed a coat and something to eat. But he said he’s like a 3X and my husband isn’t that big. So I go to the Target nearby and they don’t have anything, so I’m like, fuck it, and I get him a Visa gift card and a sandwich and water and I had a T pass with a round trip ticket on it. So I go back and give him the stuff and he’s like, cool. Then he says, “They have coats in there,” and it’s this old-school men’s shop I forgot about. So now I’m like what did I get myself into, and I go in with him and the guy at the counter gives me a pissy look, and the houseless guy takes me to the back corner where there’s a leather and sheepskin coat for $199!!! that he wants. And I’m like, “no, dude, I can’t do that.” I mean, I can, but that’s absurd. There’s a Goodwill one T stop away, or he can keep hustling til he gets a coat or enough money to buy the one he wants. I honestly don’t even spend $200 on my own costs. My winter coat is from Amazon. Now I’m not looking forward to running into him again. It’s one thing when it’s toiletries and a sandwich, but a luxury coat??
Oh yeah, I forgot hydration. I have a water pitcher in the fridge, and a big Swig cup with a cover and a straw that I refill at least 3x a day.
Well anyway, I’m not saying my mental health is ?, and a lot of the time I want to kill people, but what keeps me from getting into really bad shape is sticking to a routine, sleeping 7-8 hours at night, doing a 25-minute home workout 5x a week, drinking fruit, writing everything down in my planner, and did I mention sleeping.
I also wear jeans every damn day so I can keep a handle on my body. And I wash and style my hair once or twice a week and wear light makeup every day to feel human. I just like to. But for people who don’t, now’s a great time to, idk, get some nice loungewear, take great care of your skin, deep condition your hair and let it go natural, wear comfy slippers, be cozy.
Oh and I need to get better during the week about this, but taking a 15-minute walk in the sun is important.
Jesus. Christ. She’s an asshole, sorry. Asking your black friends for permission to do something incredibly insensitive is pretty much the epitome of white entitlement. It’s not their fucking responsibility to explain to her why she’s being a stupid bitch and ask her to change her venue. It’s her responsibility to fucking get it. If she cares, which apparently she doesn’t since she’s marrying this guy.
Also, maybe for your friend’s own mental health she needs to distance herself from anyone doing things she considers dumb and dangerous. Everyone is struggling right now in some way.
Sorry, but anyone throwing a sizable wedding right now sucks. Anyone doing so at a PLANTATION? You didn’t need to tell me the guy is an anti-masker, I already knew. No one who thinks Black Lives Matter is getting married at a plantation.
Can you at all try to get back to a routine? Regular bedtime, regular wake up time, start the day with a smoothie and vitamins, do some movement (walk, yoga app, body weight exercise), meditation, and money management? The more you avoid that stuff the worse you’ll feel.
Also, Facebook is so bad and dangerous for so many reasons (got Trump elected, responsible for Capitol insurrection, Zuck will burn in hell), and one major reason is it makes you feel sorry for yourself. I deleted my account in 2016 but my husband has it, and it gets him into this very pissed-off mindset where it’s like, everyone but him is flying around the world sightseeing in Europe or drinking on a beach in Hawaii. You start to feel like you should be able to do what you want because everyone else is. But everyone else is being a stupid douche and doing things that will get their parents and grandparents killed.
I’m on Instagram and I don’t follow anyone. I have like 70 followers, and they’re all people I know and not morons. But I still see some stupid shit on there, people posting maskless social pics, etc. Yes, I know Zuck owns Instagram too, but I find it the most manageable and controllable way to keep up with what people are doing without being exposed to too much stupid shit.
Anyway, pay attention to how social media is affecting your mental health.
Yeah, good point, it would be smart to go get a test. Unless you’re 100% not going out anywhere (truly quarantining).
This is freaking serious, though. Lots of people are getting it now, I think largely because it’s become much more contagious. Also because tons of people got together over the holidays. Just in my 8-person team at work, two people had family members die, two currently have COVID, my boss’s son had it 2 weeks ago but thankfully everyone was ok, another person’s whole family now has it, including her 78-y/o parents… it’s accelerated like crazy.
