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Well, you are also abusive and seem to drink your fair share, Suzanna. Maybe that’s why.
B, I fail to see how your anecdote about a $9 necklace is comparable to her repeatedly complaining that his daughter is ungrateful for her college education or car.
Her comments are to make the daughter seem ungrateful. Suzanna knows he’d never spend that kind of money on her. He doesn’t even want to live with her.
And now that they can’t even have fun on the weekends, because she picks fights and hates his friends, AND helped destroy his relationship with his daughter, he will move on soon enough to sociopath #4.
Buying your daughter things she needs to succeed in life/necessities like a car or college isn’t really in the same realm as “gifts of love.” It’s more of an obligation. Parents are duty bound to give their children the best foot out the door into society as they can. Despite his many failings as a father, at least he’s given her a good head start financially.
I wonder what he’ll give her as an apology gift when they make up.
You need therapy. You should go see an actual therapist, in an office. Not YouTube.
God, you are just disgusting.
She is a child. And you are a monster.
I hope he has grown a pair and realizes how horrible you are.
You caused this, not her. You did. You AND him.
It is legal in many states to allow your minor children to drink on private property.
But hosting a hoard of drinking minors is not.
You are seriously messed up if you think a 19 year old girl is evil and manipulative.
And obviously, you should not be dating men who have kids, even grown ones.
Holy shit, he had your head in a viselike grip, and kept squeezing…that’s somehow indicative of a good man to you?
He’s not a good man.All the shit about his daughter is just stupid bs that’s really none of your business. He’s the one who’s spoiled her, and you blame her for it. You even blame her for the stress he felt, and the abuse he gave you.
The alternative is worse than this? You bring out the absolute worst in each other. It’s toxic.
You absolutely need to leave him. Being alone is better than having your skull squeezed in a viselike grip. What’s next? Attempted murder?
You need to get over being jealous of children. You won’t have a happy relationship with anyone, if you try to cut parents away from their children.
Everyone has felt that way, but all of us have learned how to control our impulses and behave in a more civilized manner. When someone tells you to stop, you need to stop. It’s basic respect to listen to someone else, especially when you say you care about them.
Google anger management tips.
That’s the very least you can do.
I really hope you read what I wrote and take it to heart. We all know how it feels when you want to talk to someone who won’t, but you went WAYYYYYY over the line.Most of us (I assume) grew up in stable households with good parents, who taught us emotional regulation.
Or searched that out in adulthood, like I did.Toddlers have no impulse control. Adults make choices and decisions on how to behave. Please get help.
Abby,
You need help.If you don’t get help, you will blow up every relationship you have with your anger and emotional issues. I say this from personal experience. Just like you, I used to push people away, and then would go nuts when they had finally had enough.
At some point I made the decision to see a therapist. That’s the best decision I made as a young adult.
You need help. Stop feeling sorry for yourself and make an appointment with a counselor. You are troubled, and I’m sorry for that, but that in no way excuses being terrible to others. You can be better, but you have to make that choice.
Good luck.
You were both super dramatic over something you characterize as petty, but obviously, you more so.
How do you stop this? You learn to regulate your emotional reactions. You let your rational mind control your actions, instead of giving in to your crazy impulses.
When you feel an impulse to overreact or keep pushing for attention, stop! It is really that easy. Sit down and call a friend. Or your mom. Or take a cold shower. Take a nap. Whatever it is that can distract you and take your mind off of it. Deep breaths.
Regardless of the beginning of your fight, you told him to leave, and he did. If you get annoyed at petty crap and overreact frequently, I can see why he would not want to talk anything out with you, anymore. You need to work on yourself and see a counselor or therapist before you will be emotionally mature enough to be in a healthy relationship.
I miss the PNW. My husband and I met in Bend. I loved there for about 6 years in my early 20s. Then Seattle. Both the OR coast and the WA coast, Rainier, the Olympic Peninsula and the San Juan islands were our frequent mini trips. We’re pretty outdoorsy.
Side note, I can’t believe it was in the 90s on the east coast today (Philly.)I think that sounds promising, Ale.
