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Every January, I set up my hair appointments for the year. Six weeks, religiously. Last Thursday would have been an apt. The next is a May 21st. I’m really, really hoping that sticks.
I’m also considering Venmoing my stylist from last week’s appointment (that was obvious canceled) so I’m close to the front of people who gets an appointment when they reopen.
EDT: I need to send money anyway since she’s not working right now.
I fully expect our stay at home to be extended too. Even if we were to open, I’d keep sheltering in place much like I am now. At least until I could get the antibody test and then make more informed decisions. If we open too fast, I suspect we’ll see a massive spike in cases. Especially if the weather is nice out, prime gathering time.
And all I really want to do is walk down to G&O, sit at the bar with our friendly bartenders, eat one of their delicious burgers and fries and enjoy an old fashioned. However, Twisted Spoke is now doing take out + a handful of their cocktails-premixed and bottled. I’m getting one tomorrow and I CAN’T WAIT. It’s the little things.
RE: Parties. I’m so lucky/fortunate I turned 40 in January and my party and trip to Africa was then. My friends are fairing so well.
One girlfriend turned 40 in March. Her birthday was obviously canceled. Her bachelorette was this month. Canceled. She also preemptively postponed her wedding in September since her sister lives in Europe and she wants her here for her wedding.
Another girlfriend was going to host a 40th and make it a celebration similar to a wedding reception. Evening affair, photographer, food, dancing. She’s single and never married and wanted a fun, estravagant party. That was in June. Canceled.
I have several friends who are pregnant. It’s really scary for them right now too. My sister, who had her baby a few weeks ago, was extremely lucky in that her husband was able to be there. My friend who will have her baby in a few weeks might not be so lucky. This will be here first and only. THAT WOULD SUCK!!
I have such mixed feelings about reopening right now. I can’t wait. I want to sit at our local bar, eat a hamburger and french fries and drink an old fashioned. I want to hold my new niece. And the hair goes without saying. But I’m also terrified that we’re going to open too soon and too fast and we’ll be worse off than we are now.
So, I’ll wait. It sucks. But I’ll wait.
@Ron, he was hanging out at a bar last week. And she was eating dinner with a friend. He went hiking with his lady friend. They are most certainly not social distancing in their free time.
Essential work is one thing. Actively going out and being around people in your off time is totally different.
I’m not getting it wrong.
First. There should be no contact at all right now with anyone other than your immediate household. None. Until this pandemic subsides.
Second. We can’t tell you what will make it right. For me, nothing would make it right. I would leave because I would recognize this is an unhealthy dynamic and what he’s doing, regardless of if he’s “actually cheating”, is shady AF. This is coming from someone who is totally ok with her husband’s female friends. He doesn’t act like your husband. He doesn’t have a history of cheating. And I fully trust him at all times with everything.
Third. I’m not really sure I have a third. Or a last. Everything has already been said that I can think of.
I’m sorry you’re unhappy. I’m sorry your husband is a dick. You have the power to change it. That means leaving and working on yourself and your self esteem before you enter your next relationship. I truly hope you get the courage to do this one day. You could be so much happier.
Wait, I thought of a last. Again, you have two options. Leave. Or learn to be ok with your husband as he is now. Right now, for whatever reason, he wants to be friends with this woman regardless of your feelings. Either accept it or move on.
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