ktfran
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It is a happy time! Don’t let crazy pants ruin it for you. Think of it this way… if you were to move your wedding (DON’T!!!), she’d probably get pregnant right away and then ask you to hold off further because you’re ruining her pregnancy. There’s no reasoning with these kinds of people.
@ver, some people are seriously crazy about their weddings.
Don’t change the date of your wedding. I’m guessing the only acceptable time for you to get married is at least six+ months after your soon to be SIL. She can not dominate everyone’s lives until her “big day.”
However, you (or your fiance rather) needs to proactively keep the peace to remain on friendly terms (if that’s what he wants). I think he should calmly explain to his sister and his parents the importance of this day for you both and how it’s a simple wedding and will in no way take away from bridezilla’s wedding. There might not be any reasoning with her, but at least his parents will hopefully understand. She has A TON of weekends to pick for a shower / bachelorette. She does not need to hold these parties exactly 8 weeks out.
Don’t divulge any extra information about your wedding or honeymoon to the sister. The less she knows the better. The less she knows, the less she can find ways to get upset.
My close friend and I got married about 8 weeks apart. She was into the traditional wedding thing. Wanted all the parties. Etc. She also wanted so badly to GET married. I was meh about the whole wedding thing, I just wanted to BE married to the husband. I ended up getting married “first”. All of our friends went to both weddings (in different cities). I went to all her parties. It was fine.
One of my cousins got married three weeks after my sister. Again, in different cities. Nearly all of our family… even those who traveled… made it to both. Again, it was fine.
Yikes dude. I’m sorry you’re going to have to deal with that. People go crazy over their weddings.
Emerald cut emerald. I love it! Yay Veritik!!!
I also don’t buy gifts for the husband’s parents and vice versa. Definitely a card with a nice note would suffice.
Fun!
I have other thoughts too. Some nice stationary if she’s into that kind of thing? I’m always a fan of gifting a book. I know no cookbook though. I’m always into gifting really good hand lotion too, like the kind you splurge on. A pashmina or scarf.
I love buying gifts. Those (minus the hand lotion, but I still love) feel more personal to me.
What about a heartfelt letter/card? A pic of you guys in a nice frame?
Feel free to send me the spice box 🙂
Congrats!!!! What a great pic. Thanks for sharing.
I definitely need to go back and read from the beginning!
Vote #2 for biscuits and gravy, especially in there is cake. Balance out all the “sweet.” Also. Congrats Ver. Also, yay MissD! I’ve been waiting for an update.
The outsourcing communication is definitely weird and I would feel like I was duped.
The helping with the profile/photos… even some of the writing, totally ok. If I were to seriously use a dating app, I probably would have asked/paid Wendy to help overhaul it.
I really haven’t been in the situation since every wedding I traveled for as a plus one or brought a plus one, the relationship was serious. I’d imagine I’d handle it similar to @kate.
