Moneypenny

I’d go to MO for that! I need a change of scenery, anyway! 😀

Hey peeps!
I actually don’t have any exciting plans for the weekend… I’m going to an engagement lunch on Sunday for a friend of my parents/former neighbor who is getting married next year. She’s really sweet and I’m happy for her- she’s in her mid-40’s and met her fiancé online maybe a year or 2 ago. She’s as happy as could be, and had told my mom that she never thought she’d ever get married. (So! There is hope for us all! 🙂 ) Other than that, I have some chores to do, including putting together a presentation to give to my office about the conference I attended at the beginning of October. (not fun, but it’ll be good to get it done, or at least partly done!)
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I went on a date last night to a craft beer place- Nice guy, very chatty, works in tech but down to earth and has many different interests. Overall, a nice way to spend an hour and a half. Don’t think I’ll see him again, but that’s ok. I’m really not pursuing much of anyone on eHarmony… I frankly am not really excited over the matches I get, and I’m feeling a bit like I just want to be left alone right now. I have a lot going on, and I just am not excited so I’m not stressing over it right now.

Hey peeps!
My coffee date yesterday was very nice. No sparks flew or anything, but he was a very nice, sweet man. We talked mostly about him and his life (he’s from another country and has worked his way up to getting to where he is), and it was a nice, intelligent conversation. It was about an hour and 45 minutes long, and we parted when I told him I had to get going since I had plans (which I didn’t have, but I needed an out and we’d been there for awhile). He was a very sweet, down to earth person, and it was really nice to talk to him. And that was that! So, I guess you could say it was a good date, although I have no plans to see him again.

Stonegypsy, your weekends plans sound wonderful! Bike rides and movies and cross stitching sound super fun. I can totally understand why you’d feel drained after everything you mentioned. It sounds like this is a really good time to just take the time for yourself and recharge. Maybe take a dating sabbatical for a bit? Sending you internet hugs and wishes for a fun weekend!
My update is that last week I signed up for eharmony. I was feeling like I needed another avenue to “get out there” because what I’ve been doing (coffee meets bagel and generally being “out there” in the world doing my thing) isn’t really getting me anywhere. Needless to say, I got a LOT of attention the first few days to the point where I was thinking of shutting it down, it was so overwhelming. And few of them really caught my eye. In fact, most were “meh” and not very attractive, honestly… And lots of: I’m passionate about my job. Love living life. Love biking. (so many bikers!) Traveling. Laughing. All good things, but all the same! I’ve been weeding through them, and have a few options. And I’m having coffee with one guy (10 years older, a dentist, is not from the US) on Saturday. I’m not very excited, but he’s nice, and it’s a chance to push myself to do something different. After 1 week? I’m not very optimistic about the whole thing, but it’s something different.

Hooray, Emsz! I hope there are more kisses where that one came from!!
And thanks for the kind words! I completely agree with all of your feedback. I gotta say, there was definitely chemistry there which was amazing (I wasn’t imagining things!)… until something felt off. (As I said.) So, I have no idea what it was, but it wasn’t me. And that’s that. I’m hopeful I’ll be updating here sooner rather than later with something new! And I’m glad to get everyone’s objective feedback. 😀

Hi guys… So, I got rejected. I texted wine and cheese dude as kind of a test, because I haven’t heard from him since our date. I suggested we go for a walk/hike on this trail if he was free this weekend. I got a reply a couple hours later from him, saying that he thought it was fun getting to know me too, and that I’m fun, and cute, and intelligent, and that we get along really well. And that he was thinking the past couple of days about a potential relationship between us and that he didn’t think he was feeling that romantic something.
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In hindsight, in the hour or so before I left, I was feeling kind of ill at ease- we were talking, and he kept his arms crossed. Then, I moved over to the sofa, but he stayed across the room with his arms crossed. Then I moved over to a chair to put on my shoes, and then he moved to the sofa, which i had just vacated. So I was like, hey, make some room for me! And he did scoot over. But kept his arms crossed the whole rest of the time next to me. And I felt kind of awkward just sitting there, because I wasn’t sure if he wanted me to leave, or what! I suppose he wasn’t feeling the romantic feelings then, clearly. But it was kind of confusing, since everything else was fun and great.
So, I’m disappointed. But I guess it’s nice he actually replied, because I was really scared he was ghosting me, and I didn’t know why. And I’m not going to reply, because what’s the point. And now? I have absolutely zero prospects. Le sigh.