Family problems. Need advice ASAP
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I’m back from vacation, bitches!!!
“Also, I’m sorry I got huffy when you called me out for writing like a friendo. You are a very good moderator.”
I heard the term “friendo” somewhere and figured it was slang for when a “friend” is being a weirdo. Kate commented on a thread that I wrote something over-generalized and offensive. She was right; it was both. I was aiming to be funny and that never really works out well for me.
According to Urban Dictionary, “friendo” is:”An intimidating word you use when you want to shake down or scare someone who actually isn’t really a friend.
‘Call it. Friendo.’ – A remorseless hitman to a simple store-owner in Texas, from the film ‘No Country for Old Men.’ He wants him to call the coin he just flipped. If the store-owner calls it wrong, the hitman will kill him. If he calls it right, he’ll let him live. A real friend would just let the guy live regardless.”Javier Bardem was chilling in that film!!
@Kate hope your trip was awesome! I just wonder if Shelby/Mimosa/Marie/etc.. has ever been screened for Multiple Personality Disorder? They write (quite convincingly) as each individuals. From an outsider’s perspective, I wouldn’t have known. Especially the poster who claimed to be a 67 y/o lady defending “Shelby”. Who was actually the same person?
A 67-year-old MAN. But if you go back and read it, the “voice” is actually exactly the same, and the use of certain words (like “humility” in this case, which was used oddly) is repeated. I don’t think she has something like MPD. I think she’s disturbed for sure, and bored, but the various characters are just part of the trolling. They aren’t personalities.
Also, when you see random people who’ve never commented before suddenly jump in and defend someone, that’s a tip-off. It’s not just “Mimosa” who does that.
^This is a real thing that happens. Woa, maybe I’m just lazy but that seems like too much work to me.
Maybe you have a job and other things to do?
I can barely be myself some days, making up other personalities sounds exhausting
Hah! Fun read. Nice sluething, Kate…
Shelby,
Congratulations on being able to afford a bigger and much nicer apartment with your boyfriend. In today’s insecure, gig economy, I consider this an accomplishment. When you say you’re upset that your parents refused to help you move, what you really mean is that you are sad and angry that your parents are so indifferent to you. If you had a loving relationship with your parents, they would be happy for you and care about your feelings. They would not say, tough luck and too bad, you’re only moving across town. The kind and caring behavior of your boyfriend’s family makes your parents look even worse. To rub salt into the wound, now your parents want you to help them move.Unfortunately there is no easy solution to the indifference of your parents, or to the possibility that they favor your two older sisters over you. You have tried the reasonable approach of talking to them, but not surprisingly it hasn’t helped. Because it is doubtful that your parents will change, you are now forced to mourn the loss of the loving relationship that you want and deserve with your parents. That they are so callous is not your fault, and the situation does not make you broken or damaged goods. Having gone through a similar situation with my late parents, it is very difficult. Therapy helped me to cope with the pain and tomove on to a happy and productive life. Good luck!
Sometimes with family you have to have the uncomfortable conversations. If you don’t communicate to your father directly about how hurt you are at his indifference, you will never know how he really feels. It sounds like you communicate slightly better with your mom on this issue, and helping her move could be an opportunity for you to sit her down in a car with you and communicate how you feel about her and your dad not helping with your move. They may get angry or upset at first and you probably will too; but the outcome is worth it, because the outcome is that the anxiety that you are feeling will be gone. It will be replaced with information that gives you perspective on your relationship with your family. Alternatively, you could send a message through your unwillingness to help. If they question it, the same conversation may conclude. Or they may say it’s okay and they understand. But my suggestion, if you’re going to feel that guilt, is to go with option A. Not only will you be communicating with them and building your relationship, but you will be setting the example of what they should have done, which will further solidify your position on the issue.
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