Found felony record… not sure if I should say something
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Well, I mean, you can go looking for information about ANYBODY in local court records. Easily. With the excuse of “this person may be in tangential contact with my kids,” you could find out the names of everyone on your block/at your church/at your school, and look up everyone to find out whatever you want.
Does that sound reasonable, though?
Put yourself in coach’s shoes: Would you appreciate a random acquaintance telling you they ran a background check on you AND your boyfriend to make sure you were fit to watch their kids for a weekend (you didn’t know about this proposed babysitting, and maybe you wouldn’t have been interested anyway—so, nothing you invited or asked for), and “there was a red flag?”
I’m simply warning becboo how she will appear to this coach: WAAAAAAY over the line and absolutely intrusive.
Before the advent of the internet, you’d have to go down to your courthouse and request records to snoop through, thereby outing yourself as a creep. In a small town, that would probably get around pretty quick.
I mean, parents can be investigated by CPS for allowing their healthy, unabused, 8 year child to walk the dog within view from their house, but is that reasonable?
Just because it’s legal/illegal doesn’t mean it’s right or wrong.
“I mean, parents can be investigated by CPS for allowing their healthy, unabused, 8 year child to walk the dog within view from their house, but is that reasonable?
Just because it’s legal/illegal doesn’t mean it’s right or wrong.
”So you’re not sure if this is right or wrong? Because sometimes it’s easy to see that something is either right or wrong.
I’m arguing back at the “it’s legal and these records are on the internet.”
Just because you CAN, doesn’t mean you SHOULD.
I think the point that the bf has nothing to do with her potentially watching the kids is pertinent. Just as I think she never asked or had a notion that she would sit her kids.
Does any of it really matter? No. But here we are, commenting in forums about any number of issues that are totally meaningless within the context of our own lives.
I’m not the one piling on with about a dozen snarky, sanctimonious responses about how she’s crossed a line, though.
And to all the “the charges are horrendous! Someone should do something!”
Okay, then, tell her what you found! Tell the gym then, too. What about the other parents? Should they know?
And also, are these charges? Or convictions? Why isn’t he in jail?
And also, what do his charges or convictions have to do with her babysitting?
There’s one reason why she is hesitant… because it’s creepy and invasive to do a pretty thorough background check on someone for a pretty slim reason.
I have personally never assumed a sitter’s partner would be part of the babysitting package, and thus far, they haven’t.
and I’m saying that maybe it is easy to see that it’s ok to do this in that situation. Also how does the BF have nothing to do with the situation? Maybe I missed it, but if he is a live-in boyfriend or visits a lot, and is going to be around when the kid is staying with her, that seems to be pretty pertinent. Or is the possibility of this guy slapping around his GF in front of her kid another one of those gray areas? Is it right? Is it wrong? ugh I just don’t know!
No, you’re just being a total snarky bitch at ONLY me a dozen or so times for some reason? Skim past my comments.
* read through everything and I’m the one coming off as snarky? In a chorus of people saying the same thing, you are pinpointing me to be rude to?
I don’t know, I mean how often do you have to consent for a background check for yourself and your partner when you apply for a job?
It doesn’t matter, I don’t really care, I’m just pointing out my opinion.
