Robert, your dating situation makes me think of a rescue and recovery mission following a disaster or a missing person claim. There’s a rescue search as long as there is hope of finding anyone alive. Once that hope has passed, the search shifts to a recovery mission: one where the goal of the searchers is to find remains so that the case can be closed, and the bereaved might get closure and begin to heal. I believe that we have long since passed any hope of rescue here. You have shown next to no willingness to learn from the years of advice and insight you’ve been given. Aside from buying some new clothes a couple years ago and taking some new profile pics and incorporating the profile I wrote for you – has it been three years now since that happened?? – you’ve shown zero willingness to adapt to a dating landscape that has changed since your last successful relationship (in the 90s, right?) and the normal expectations normal women have in partners and relationships.

Essentially, your motivation to find a fulfilling relationship is dead. I do not believe it is something you genuinely want or you’d show more interest in adapting. And it’s not surprising, really, that you don’t have a genuine interest in a genuine relationship. People are complicated and relationships can be messy. They demand some selflessness, flexibility, adaptability to be truly successful. These are not traits you’ve shown us you have in the years we’ve interacted with you. That’s not to say you are without good and admiral qualities. But the qualities that make a relationship work are not qualities you naturally have and not qualities you’ve shown any – I mean ANY – interest in fostering in yourself.

It’s time to shift to a recovery mode: for you to figure out how to make your life fulfilling without a partner. I suggest building friendships, investing in your business/ business skills, and finding ways to give back/invest in your community. Giving to others is a wonderful way to build the kind of legacy you might hope having children would give you. It’s a wonderful way to build a community and feel a sense of purpose.

And who knows, maybe if you take the focus off of finding a woman to spend your life with, she might actually find you when you least expect it. If that ever does happen, for god’s sake, show her some affection before the 3-month mark.

When I was single it was exhausting to take public transit. So many women hungry for smooching.

LOL.

It has just occured to me that you have been keeping this thread going forever with your stubborn refusals to “get” anything we say or to change. You are a time waster and tire kicker, like so many guys on dating sites actually are. They want attention from women even though they do not really want a relationship, or they have a girlfriend or a wife and are just looking for an ego stroke or boost. All talk and no substantive action.

A kiss is not a handshake, and no one ever said anything like that! You shake hands upon meeting someone. When you’re dating someone, you are getting to know them and figuring out chemistry. Even a kiss at the end of a first date is nothing like a handshake. The comparison is preposterous. You’re making us all out to be whores or something and you’re the peculiar one!

Robert, therapy. And you’ll also be amazed at this thing called “self help books.” You’ve spent decades believing women don’t like affection from men they’ve been dating for literally months? We can help you no more.

This whole thing about women being unreasonable and demanding when it comes to physical affection crossed into an uncomfortable area that does feel controlling, slut-shaming, and misogynystic.

It’s amazing Robert, truly. That you can be so blind and ridiculous. We’ve told you it’s YOU a million times in a million ways and you still want to blame…

WOMEN as a whole. I think years ago, right at the start someone said you were an incel and here it is.