They keep giving advice because that is literally what this website is for. You put your question out there to be answered. Nowhere does it say anyone has to stop.

Sarah, the way you keep saying, “it could happen”, it’s pretty clear that you’re wishing for your boss to get divorced. But I wonder if you’re really thinking about what happens in a divorce. It’s not just “hey, hon, let’s not be married anymore, ok?” “k thx bye”.

Your boss got up in front of all of his friends and family and promised to love this woman for the rest of his life. And she did the same thing. These are two people who want to be together forever. When a relationship like that breaks up, it’s AWFUL. I’ve watched friends’ divorces, and it’s absolute agony. Imagine what that’s like – the person you thought you’d grow old with tells you they don’t love you anymore. The emotional damage from a divorce can take decades to get over. You would wish that on your boss and/or his wife? I really don’t think you would.

And it’s not just the couple. Close relationships with in-laws are broken. People lose their spouse and a big chunk of their family.

Friendships get broken in divorces, too, as people who were friends with the couple feel like they have to choose sides.

Then there’s the financial damage. I had a friend who was forced to declare bankruptcy after his wife left him. Seven years of ruined credit. Couldn’t even get a car loan.

Think about what you’re really wishing for here. You obviously care about this man a lot. I don’t think you really want to see his life ruined just so he could be freed up to date you.

He’s not available. I know you wish it were different, but it’s not. We don’t get all the things we want in life. Move on, and find a guy who you can actually have. Reality is way better than fantasy. 🙂

If this thread doesn’t make it to 50 pages i’ll be really let down.