I have a MAJOR crush on my married boss!
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Sarah, have you been diagnosed with bipolar disorder? That’s not an attack, but a genuine question. I’m just curious because your behavior reminds me of behavior of bipolar people I know when they aren’t on their meds.
@TheRascal, what about me??? I was kind, compassionate, and thoughtful, too!!!! Don’t hurt my feelings by excluding me.
I think I’ll go make some cinnamon rolls.
Everyone has been in your shoes of not always reacting well all the time. But, the point is as you go through life if this is the way you always react then people outside of your family will change how they treat you. And that is sad. You should want to change for yourself.
“Sometimes I can’t help it. Wouldn’t execpt u to understand.”
I’m sorry that you think some of us, including myself, can’t understand. What I know, though, is that many of us do understand because we have dealt with depression, too.
You can help it. You are the only person in control of your actions; you are the one who decides whether or not to lash out. You are the one who can decide how to react.
As I wrote before, please reread what Lyra, Convexed, and bostonpupgal had to say. They were kind, compassionate, and insightful in their comments.
@Sarah, what exactly does your family understand? I find this curious, because further up you said that people at work hate you and that you are always treated like a doormat. You also say that you are a really nice person.
It must be really perplexing to be you. I’m scratching my head just trying to understand your thought processes, and I’m OUTSIDE them.
My family && friends understand my depression && lashing out sometimes. And others don’t as much
What makes you disagree? Again, genuine question. I work in primarily with people who have mental health diagnoses and I encounter a lot of different diagnoses and ways that it looks for different people. Has anyone talked to you about the different types of depression and bipolar? Your therapist might be able to give you some resources. These are really big names for a really diverse set of symptoms that look different for every person.
I’ve seen all kinds of both of those diagnoses and feel comfortable saying that I understand a lot of what goes on in mental health. I worked primarily with people with psychotic disorders for 2 years. I know what some people can’t help and things that they would like to change and feel powerless to do so at times. But you can still try and practice and put in the work to relate better to others in a more positive way.
When you say you were diagnosed with “it” but you don’t agree…do you mean you were diagnosed as bipolar?
Regardless, when diagnosed with anything…if you don’t think the diagnosis is accurate (be it diabetes, depression, or dyslexia), it’s a good idea to get a second and sometimes a third opinion. Just choosing to disagree (based on what experience and expertise?) is not necessarily the wisest course to take.
If the second and third opinions agree with the first, it’s time to take the diagnosis as confirmed — whether or not you want to believe it — and try treatment.
The thing is, you are clearly unhappy with how several things in your life are going. Sometimes things just happen. But sometimes we are the underlying cause. If you have a diagnosis of any kind of mental illness (and it’s called illness for a reason: it’s something that’s not your fault that can be treated), it is generally a good idea to at least try treating it to see if things improve.
Of course that is your choice. And it is your decision not to follow through if you prefer not to. However, if things continue to go poorly for you, I hope that you will remember some of your interactions here and will take advantage of the fact that you are smart enough to seek treatment. Getting treatment is a sign of strength, not weakness … a sign of intelligence, not a sign of inadequacy.
