I have a MAJOR crush on my married boss!

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  • February 18, 2015 at 10:03 am #336224

    Right. Other people don’t accept it, because it’s innapropriate. The way you treat other people and react to life frames how others see you. Don’t you think it’s telling that your reactions match someone with bipolar disorder, which you’ve been diagnosed as? I agree your therapist should easily be able to help with a crush on your boss. You really should try and see a different therapist. My best friend is bipolar. She’s on meds, and her life is totally different than it was three years ago.

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    Sarah b
    February 18, 2015 at 10:05 am #336225

    Stop questioning my intelligence I am smart && in fact got on lots of medications for depression nothing helps. I think everybody is bipolar a lil but I’m gonna stop discussing my private problems with strangers now. Are u all done ganging up on me? Cuz I AM!

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    February 18, 2015 at 10:06 am #336227

    Can’t you see we are trying to help you?

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    February 18, 2015 at 10:08 am #336228

    Sarah, I think the heart of your problem is right here:

    “Umm stop talking shit bout my therapist k thanks asshole. And another thing don’t call me ugly saying “ugliness” wtf. And I never said I won the thread jerk off god right now I’m dealing with other shit ”

    If you keep talking to people that way, your life won’t get better. This isn’t anything to do with depression, or bipolar disorder, or anything else. This is something you can fix without therapists, or medication. Let me be as clear as possible: people won’t like you when you talk that way. Guys don’t want to date girls who are always spouting off with obscene, angry, nasty rants. If you talk that way on the job, you’ll never get or keep a good job.

    To be even clearer: you’ve said many times that you’re intelligent, and you’re not immature. But you know what? Intelligent, mature people DO NOT TALK THAT WAY. You’re starting at a disadvantage with everyone you meet, because when people hear the words you keep using, they assume you’re stupid and/or immature. It’s like wearing a sign that says “I’m dumb.”

    Perfect example. The way you reacted to the word “ugliness”. No one here called you ugly. No one. At all. They were saying that the things you’ve been saying are ugly. The words are ugly. They make people turn off and stop listening, or even dislike you. But what was your reaction? Instead of taking a minute to listen and think about what the person meant, you blew up and spewed even more ugliness.

    You can change this. All by yourself. And I bet that one thing will make a huge difference in your life.

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    February 18, 2015 at 10:11 am #336229

    It’s good that your family understands your extreme reactions, but you still have to change your behavior. It’s hard to put up with the lashing out even if you feel that it’s part of your illness and they know it. It’s going to continue to affect your jobs and relationships. Getting help does show strength.

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    Sarah b
    February 18, 2015 at 10:12 am #336230

    Again stop questioning my intelligence I say that stuff bc I have a short fuse. I am very snart && I’m sure u done it too big deal. Doesn’t mean I’m stupid && I kept my job this long && held my tongue. And another thing guys do like me but I don’t like some of them. And my friends certaintely love me

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    Sarah b
    February 18, 2015 at 10:13 am #336231

    Trying to help me how?!? By questioning my intelligence??! No not really

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    February 18, 2015 at 10:14 am #336232

    Maybe the medications for depression aren’t working because it’s setting off behaviors that have to do with mania. That’s why additional professional opinions might be helpful.

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    February 18, 2015 at 10:17 am #336234

    Maybe you should take the time to actually read what we’ve been writing. We are trying to help you. I never said you weren’t smart.

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    February 18, 2015 at 11:16 am #336246

    And I didn’t say you weren’t intelligent, either. I said that the words you are choosing to say make you sound un-intelligent.

    I repeat – choosing. Having a short fuse is no excuse for the language you use. You choose to go off on people for no good reason, you can also choose not to do that.

    When you’re talking to people who don’t know you well, all they have to know you by is your words. And the way you talk to people makes them assume you’re not worth getting to know. Which is very, very sad.

    You’re making your own life so much harder than it has to be.

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    Sarah b
    February 18, 2015 at 11:22 am #336248

    Again I had reasons to go off. I felt like u were attacking me. And words don’t make someone unintelligent thanks. Okay so I went off big deal u act like u never did. You act like its serious its not

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    bostonpupgal
    February 18, 2015 at 11:24 am #336249

    Yikes. Sarah, honestly, I would show this thread to a trusted adult in your life: your therapist, your mom or dad, a counsellor at your school, just someone. There are serious problems here, and honestly if there are people in your life that are tolerating your lashing out without concern, they aren’t doing you any favors. If you’ve been diagnosed bipolar but don’t agree, are on medications that don’t work or make things worse, lashing out with anger and insults, I mean the list goes on. You need some intervention. Some steps you can take yourself, some you need outside help with. We don’t know you in real life, and you need people who do to step in.

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