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It was just announced that our public schools are probably going to have to split classes and teach each group of kids two days a week to be able to keep them six feet apart in school. Things might change. I’m not sure how I feel about it.
I’m getting antibody tested next week if I can find an appointment. All the labs near me say they’re booked, but I’m going to go in anyway.
I knew it would be bad, but I never would have thought it could be this bad. He has failed in every single way. He’s torn the country apart. It’s actually amazing how completely he’s fucked this country. He’s winning at killing Americans. Can you believe the numbers!?
But his supporters don’t see that. They still believe in “American Exceptionalism.” My conservative, trump-loving father called me yesterday. We barely speak now. Within minutes he was making comments about masks and how our numbers are only so high because we’re testing more than any other country. I just ended the call. I can’t deal with anyone anymore.
I’m so sorry, Fyodor.
There is a long history of posts from this person about his affairs, specifically this one.
Staying has been mentioned, but it is not going to make her happy. She wants a family, he doesn’t. He’s not honest with her, he’s cheated and manipulated/gaslighted her and has said he wants a divorce. She snoops in his phone. There is no trust. I don’t know how you come back from him saying he wants a divorce especially since he will not prioritize her or her feelings over this girlfriend. False hope is probably not going to help.
Are you really 70% happy? It really does not sound like you are.
Have you point blank asked your friends for their advice on your situation? Have they given the same advice ten times before and are tired of your inaction and feel unable to give you any advice anymore?
It’s interesting to me that you say you don’t get anything out of therapy, yet you claim your friends and family don’t really listen to you, and we know your husband manipulates you. I wonder how much of a chance you’ve given any therapist.
I don’t think your husband wants a chance to save this when he told you he wanted a divorce. That’s pretty clear to me that he’s thought about this and chooses her. I’m sorry you married a man who is more invested is his girlfriend than he is invested in you- bu why would you want to continue trying after he said that to you? It’s frankly shocking that you’re still sticking around after that considering the numerous affairs, that he’s an asshole to your family and doesn’t want kids- and you say you do.
Yeah, breakups and divorces are scary but they happen everyday. They don’t have to break you. They don’t define you. You need to prioritize your mental health and happiness.
We have opened up and spent time with neighborhood families that have been very careful, as we have. We’ve have socially distanced hangouts and play dates and we go to our community pool almost daily. Not many people are going-if it was popular, I wouldn’t be going at all. Masks are required when not in the pool. That’s been really good for us.
But I honestly feel like we vacillate between feeling as though we, personally have little to fear, assuming all of us were exposed when I was sick and worried we’re not being responsible enough. Don’t get me wrong- we’re still being careful, but I personally feel not afraid to catch it now. Even though the information we get about immunity conflicts and we don’t really know how that works, I feel not afraid. I’m still being responsible for the greater good, though. I wish everyone was.
I am worried about school. I think even with measures in place, it’s going to be so hard for administration, teachers and students. I don’t want elementary school to be so regimented that the fun is gone. But I also can’t imagine trying to home school/learn remotely because even though my son is super bright and interested in learning, doing work via iPads was not exciting or even slightly fun for him. I don’t know what the right answer is. Socially distanced in person school? Skipping this year? I don’t know.
I am happy to be in a school district where I do really respect and appreciate our superintendent and our principal. Everyone works so hard and is really invested. I’m sure they will make the best decision they can, but hopefully those that makes the laws do, too.
I think owe me a drink is a code for sex.
You’re not okay with his relationship with her. When challenged he said, “I want a divorce.”
You are still in pain and suffering because you are in a marriage with someone who doesn’t give a shit about how you feel. When asked to take it easy with his new friend, he told you she was more important to him than you.
There’s no magic way you can phrase this story to make it sound any better than that.
He doesn’t choose you. It’s time to go. You will continue to feel like shit until you finally see that for yourself and can leave.
You don’t love him, either. He cheats and lies and gaslights you. You’re so unhappy. This is not the man to continue trying with.
Consult a divorce lawyer and get out of there when he’s on one of his Friday full day dates. Just grab your stuff and go. Start planning now and you could be out.
He truly doesn’t love you AND is a narcissistic asshole.
Have you actually gone out with them?
With knowing he isn’t going to change you should leave before he leaves you- or gives you an STD. There’s nothing you can say. His manipulative grip on you is so strong. You’re brainwashed.
