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So sorry, Veritek.
So sorry, MG.
Congratulations, MG!
Scorpio, I hope I’m wrong but I think he honestly wants to date and sleep with other women and you should let him go. Stop talking with him. He’s not a friend. He doesn’t have your best interests in mind and is using you for attention at this point. If he really loved you and wanted to be with you, he’d be with you. It doesn’t sound like he’s some inexperienced twenty year old. Don’t let him have his cake and eat it, too. He’s stringing you along and I know you don’t want to become the side chick. Staying in contact is just prolonging the hurt for you and helping him feel like he’s the good guy, even though he broke up with you to date other women.
Awww, he sounds very sweet and thoughtful, LadyE! Congratulations, K!
I’m sure I said it first a few months in and my husband pulled a Han Solo move and said, “I know.” All in good fun because it kind of perfectly exemplifies our dry repartee. He did say it back a minute later.
Did you not read this entire thread and just post a response? It’s a year old. So you must have searched for the term.
I think the fact that he and his parents allow her to attack you and do nothing in the moment to address it is a big warning sign. He doesn’t stand up for you. This is a lot like when we say “you don’t have a MIL problem, you have a partner problem,” except sub in your SIL. She’s a problem, but he should be handling it, not you.
I really hope you do get into some counseling together soon. I hate to be that person, but I would not get married if he can’t or won’t stand up for you. That’s really the only way you’re going to get off the chopping block. His sister should not be confronting you or attacking you. He should be the first line of defense with his family. His parents apologizing to you by the car, and not in front of his sister is another warning sign in my mind. No one dares speak up in front of her. Clearly, she runs the family.
I wouldn’t change your plans. Fuck it. Maybe you should do the courthouse first? Take the IUD out ASAP. Don’t let the terrorists win.
*ETA actually, maybe you shouldn’t rush to get pregnant if your fiancé can’t unfreeze himself and stand up for you. Counseling, stat.
Wow. What’d your fiancé do/say about all that?
Don’t change your plans. Don’t let her dictate what you both choose to do. The date is significant to you and you are not raining on her parade by having your wedding two months before hers. That’s ridiculous. I agree an information diet sounds appropriate. I’m not sure how the in laws are, but maybe that will mean telling them less details? Just make sure you’re on the same page.
Congratulations! Veritek, love the ring.
We did that! We had a courthouse wedding with only a few friends, and then had a few more meet us at a “private event” long brunch into lunch at our favorite restaurant. It was really fun. They made a special menu for our party with all of our favorites. Much champagne was had and I definitely took a wedding nap.
