anonymousse

Option B by Sheryl Sandberg is a good read. It’s really helped me with perspective and understanding how resilient humans can be.

Lady E, that was great advice and perspective.

Comparing yourself to others, when you probably don’t know their secret struggles or pain, will always make you feel bad.
I’m so lucky and grateful for what I have. But I really try to look on the bright side. Things could always be worse, trust me. I think I have a healthy appreciation for that.

If you aren’t where you want to be, what would it take to get there? Is where you wanted to be, still the same? For example, when I was young, I thought I’d be some free, single lady with a group of friends, free of debt, traveling and basically partying my life away.
Here I am, on the cusp of 35, I’ve rarely left my country, and I’m totally in the opposite position. Two kids, a great marriage, and believe me, I am so happy and thankful for that, but sometimes I wonder about the paths I didn’t choose. Here I am 35, without a career, by choice, and I’m am at the beck and call of my children, and basically, my husband’s family. It’s not what I would have chosen back then. And in fact, even now, I sometimes wish I had the freedom to do what I wanted with my day. I’m not selfless. I’m actually a very selfish person.

I wrote all this to say, we make choices. We all make our own choices, and I rarely think luck is involved. I also believe you attract what you put out in the world. Be kinder to yourself. You sound very hard on yourself. Forgive yourself for not being where you thought you’d be. You are on a new path now. Focus on what you want and make tiny steps, as often as you can, to get there. Put yourself out there, take chances.
So many people around my age, even married or married with children, or just with children feel the same. Depressed, alone, unhappy with themselves. You are not alone, in feeling that way. Nearly everyone I know is not where they though they’d be in their thirties.
If social media is compounding these issues, take a social media break. They are awesome.

I can’t even believe he said whorish.

Go get help Bacc. Step away from your MRA websites. It’s obvious you haven’t had many relationships and if you have, I shudder to think how you’ve treated the people you date.

I’m moving this weekend-out of the super expensive Airbnb! Into a nice place out of the city in PA. It’s such a relief. I will be back in my own slice of heaven, my comfy bed, on Sunday. Can not wait.

Fyodor- what corner of PA are you in? Maybe we could have a mini meetup sometime. I’m actually really excited to have a new place (PA) to explore.

The weak internet bastards only get me down for a minute. I’m fighting bigger fish…namely trying to convince the new DA to try a horrible bastard as an adult. Sigh. So, yes, in fact, I am a bit of a keyboard warrior right now, but also a voice mail warrior, and a snail mail warrior, and a nighttime worrier.

Thanks for the cheer, DW friends.♥️

I have to admit, even some random troll telling me to kill myself kind of hurts. What a jerk.
I’m not tough enough for the comment sections these days.
TGIF

“And anonymousse, she commited suicide by jumping in front of a train while drunk when i was 12.”

There are so many cruel things I could and even want to say right here, but I won’t, because I am a bigger person than that.

“Please try that yourself, too, it’s a very good way to get rid of useless people.”

How dare you!?

Wow. You have no idea about my life, or my problems. I can tell you are just a mean bully. You are a terrible human being. That was really cold blooded and cruel.

Everyone has dealt with pain and suffering, but only pieces of shit try to inflict more pain upon others.

I’m sorry you have a shit life and no girl wants to be with you. I have a great life.

You are a misogynistic troll.

This is why no one wants to get closer to you. Then can sense your cruelty and emptiness. You are just another crappy dude. This girl was smart and smelled it on you before she got too close. Good for her.