SpaceySteph
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Definitely on team “suck it up.”
If she was asking you all the time then it’d be one thing. But she’s at least 2 strings deep, so she’s definitely in a bind. I think most of us would have been a lot more sympathetic if you just said “my sister needs me to babysit but I had plans that night” (although probably still would have told you to suck it up) but it definitely ventured into “the lady doth protest too much” when you enumerated all those reasons.Also, I think you are surprisingly judgmental of your sister using babysitters and it didnt take any word twisting to do. I like my kid also, but she spends all day at daycare because I work fulltime and yes, sometimes, I want to do adult fun things without her also. If that makes me a bad mom in your eyes I guess I’ll need to reevaluate my life choices. Or not.
Yeah I’m with Fyodor on this. If he doesn’t want his kids to dye Easter eggs, there is nothing inherently wrong with that, but it does indicate that you’re not a good match for him. Also the fact that you went immediately to being devastated about easter eggs shows that you aren’t suited to this relationship either. Sounds like you need to seek out someone you have more in common with, religiously.
I’m in an interfaith marriage, I’m Jewish, my husband is Catholic and as part of that we have to negotiate what traditions matter most and how to adapt them in ways that make sense for our family. It’s work, for sure, and it also requires compromises. Not every is willing to compromise on matters of religion and that’s ok, it just means you need to seek out and date people who don’t require that much compromise.
I gotta say my spidey sense tingled on this on day 1. I somehow knew this would end in “SJW” and “go kill yourself.” Thats how good my psycho detection ability is after 31 years of being a woman in the world.
“But please tone down in your feministic political views, pretty please.”
Hahh no thanks.
Careful, Kate, she might report you to the internet police!
You just said your dad went all out for your older sisters’ first place, but this isn’t your first place! You already moved out 6 years ago. Are you still mad because they didn’t go all out back then and just projecting on the current move? Or did they actually help out back then but you kind of expected it again?
I don’t think Northern Star was saying you should get married. She was asking if that was your dad’s concern.
In general you seem to lack the ability to see this from anyone else’s POV (even those of us you are specifically asking for advice on the matter) and that kind of perspective would probably be helpful.
From your parents perspective this may not be a big deal since its just another apartment vs a house or marriage or kids, they may be preoccupied with other stuff like aging and moving their own selves, and they may be tired after having gone all out for their 2 older children.
I would never tell you that you got friendzoned because there is no such thing, that’s a bullshit excuse for what is actually just a lack of chemistry or interest on the woman’s part. Dudebros like to interpret it as some mythological placement in a zone where she can’t be interested in you even though you’re definitely a catch, rather than realize that they are not god’s gift to women and there are plenty of reasons a woman might not want to have sex or a relationship with you.
What happened is that she is a person with opinions and desires and feelings and she decided that she doesn’t have the feelings she wants to have in order to continue a relationship with you. That’s it. Sorry, she’s just not that into you.
Ah but of course that guy is brown. It’s not any good guy with a gun that’ll save us all… its a good WHITE guy with a gun.
I don’t actually think reading the entirety helps anything. The constitution is constantly being interpreted by the Supreme Court so their opinions (as someone linked above) carry more weight than whatever you or I or Joe Gun Nut interprets as the point.
I’m not disagreeing with you LisforLeslie. I’m just adding data to back up your point.
Also I think the reason that trope is so successful in SciFi is because of its inherent truth.
Fyodor makes such an excellent point. People are terrible at risk analysis and are generally afraid of the wrong things. Top causes of death in the US are almost entirely health related (https://www.cdc.gov/nchs/fastats/leading-causes-of-death.htm) so learning martial arts would be a far better use of Tim’s time (improve his health and his feelings about self-protection).
Roughly the same amount of people die from firearms (both suicide and homicide) as die in car accidents, but you’re far more likely to die of a heart attack.
ETA that last bit from the 2014 data found here, page 12: https://www.cdc.gov/nchs/data/nvsr/nvsr65/nvsr65_04.pdf
