Updates

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today we hear from “Come and Knock on My Door,” the 39-year-old woman who was having a flirty thing with her next-door neighbor – usually across their shared backyard fence, but sometimes at one of their apartments, and even resulting in some kisses. And then this: “Today I was visiting some friends and when I came home at 8 p.m., whose car do I see parked outside??? His ex-girlfriend’s!!! So, I realized he is not really into me, or he’s a narcissist,…

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today we hear from “Not Sick of Kissing,” who wrote in a couple weeks ago saying that fr the past few months her boyfriend refused to kiss her for fear of getting sick after she caught a cold back in June and passed it to him. “Fast forward to now, September,” she wrote, “and he is no longer sick but he still will not kiss me. He admitted that he’s afraid of getting sick again and that’s why he avoids it. […]…

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today we hear from “Concerned Mom” whose ex-boyfriend, whom she dated for five years while recovering from a domestically abusive relationship, still wanted to be in her kids’ lives. She explains that she cheated on him and was not able to effectively move on from their relationship. She said: “I was also diagnosed with MS and had a lot of fear and overwhelming emotions going on — so instead of visiting the kids, he just kept in touch with them through texts….

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today we hear from “Co-Parenting Dilemma” whose son’s biological dad was suddenly popping into their lives after years of near silence. She wrote: ” at 27 years old — had gotten his 17-year-old girlfriend pregnant, he finally wanted to father our child six years after he was born. Naturally, I wasn’t thrilled since he wouldn’t hold a job or put down the booze before.” Her biggest worry was that the bio dad wanted their son to sleep over at his place,…

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today we hear from “New to this Mom” who was upset that new boyfriend was uncomfortable changing her daughter’s diaper and requesting payment for baby-sitting while she was at work. “I don’t know why, but that kind of put me off a bit. I don’t know if he is setting respectful boundaries and I am the one not used to it, or if it’s something I need to discuss with him and, if I do, how do I approach it.” Her…

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today we hear from “Sick of the Pattern” who wrote in after a vacation with a girlfriend of six months didn’t go very well and made them both question the relationship and whether they were a match. He wrote: “This has been happening for the last twenty years and it’s the same old pattern. I date a woman for three to six months, anxiety sets in, relationship ends, and anxiety dissipates. I’m sick of it. I’m even beginning to question myself…

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today we hear from “Pregnancy Hopeful,” a woman who was wondering the best way to tell her infertile sister that she was planning to get pregnant soon. She updated once before after she suffered a miscarriage and a couple weeks before her sister, who had begun IVF treatments, was to have her first embryo transfer. It’s been just over three years since we heard from her. Below, find out whether she and her sister have become mothers in that time.

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today we hear from “Stunned By Baby News” whose boyfriend of eight months announced on social media that he was expecting a baby with his wife (whom he told the LW he was separated from). Find out in her update below whether she stayed with him.

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today we hear from “Worried Daughter” who, with the help of her husband, supported her father after he fell on hard times for a year (and to the tune of $20k plus) with no end in sight to her father’s inability to support himself. Unfortunately, she and her husband were not in a position to continue paying her dad’s rent and her husband did not want his FIL moving in with them, putting the LW in a terrible position of potentially…