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“this is such a huge and exciting time for me.”
Talk to your father.
Where have I been rude? Or condescending? If you have problems with your father you need to take it up with him or a counselor.
Reread your post. It doesn’t read “problems with my dad” it reads no one is celebrating my lease signing with my boyfriend of five years.
The comment I made about your momentous lease signing was a joke. I’m sorry I was being so insensitive.
A 5.5 hour drive is not thousands of miles away, either. You are being very dramatic.
If you are angry with your father, take it up with him, not your mom.
Your mom came over and brought you housewarming gifts. That’s an ounce of happiness for your momentous life event of signing a lease.
So you’ve actually lived in three or more places before this?
You attract more bees with honey.
You are an adult now. I agree with Kate that you need to be more realistic about your expectations of your parents, and your expectations of what kind of event in your life that gives others a reason to celebrate.
Are you the youngest?
And how old are you? Mid twenties?That’s was a question posing a possible reason why. We don’t know you. It’s a pretty common issue, even though times have changed. Dad’s still have feelings about their daughters…that might be antiquated.
How old are you?
Have you told your father how you feel?
Talk to him.
That’s how adults handle things.I do not recall anyone saying you are entitled, but you clearly laid out the financial help and gifts his parents gave you vs. what your patents did, including the fact that your mother did bring you items. Yes, that makes you seem entitled.
You are so angry over something you never asked them for. That’s childish.
They aren’t doing anything wrong. You got a new rental, you didn’t do anything spectacular, or really worthy of much comment.
After your angry response, maybe they are limiting time visiting you because the anger emanating from you is very palpable.
Yes, you do sound petty, and childish. How old are you?
Did you ask for their help? No?
That’s why you didn’t get help. You didn’t even need more help than what you received.
Your mother IS asking for your help.
You sound really angry and bitter about your parents.
See a counselor, seriously. They can help you get to the root of this. Holding on to anger and bitterness will just poison your happiness in the long run.Comparing your parents to other parents is never going to go well. Everyone is different. Maybe his parents are wealthier, maybe he’s their only son and they wanted to be there for this momentous occasion of finding a slightly better rental! Regardless, why can’t you set this aside and enjoy your new place, instead of looking for ways to be angry and bitter at them?
Did you ask them to help you move? Have you invited them over? How old are you?
My family has never helped me move anywhere. I have also never asked for their help. I don’t see how them not helping you is so hurtful to you.
I question whether you even needed their help if you lived in a tiny studio…
Regardless, stop comparing your families.
To me, it looks like you are hunting for something to be mad at them about.
And yes, it is no big deal to move into yet another apartment.Yet, your mother is asking for your help. And you want to say no to punish her for not helping you…but did you ask her?
If you have som much anxiety and hurt from your parents, you should talk to a counselor or therapist about it.
She doesn’t want to be cuddle buddies with you possibly because she’s met someone she had interest in, or knows that neither of you will move forward if you are stuck cuddling all the time. Sorry.
She’s not that into you. That’s what she and her friend meant by she doesn’t feel any fire for you. That probably won’t change. She thinks you want more, because you do…you do want more, you want sex, you keep talking about the connection you have, when she really doesn’t feel the same for you. You agree to almost whatever she throws at you because you just want to be around her. The reason it went downhill When you got more intimate- she couldn’t fool herself or you that she had chemistry with you.
Don’t be mad at her, it’s just not the right match.
She’s been clear that she doesn’t feel the same. If she still wanted to cuddle, she’d hit you up, but she’s not. All the things she says, never saying never, those are things women have learned to say to let down guys easy, because sometimes people get crazy when you tell them no. She’s trying to be nice about it.
Just let her go, man.
Don’t play cool, or chill or whatever, just let it go. Smile and wave when you see her, but move on.I can’t believe in an entire year he’s never bought you a single meal.
Are you sure he’s not homeless? There’s no excuse for that. Even my brokest of broke dudes bought me some meal sometime. Jeez.
