Updates

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today we hear from “Still In Love with Ex” whose ex-wife reached out to him at a difficult time in her life, with the result being that he enjoyed being there for her and he wondered if there was potential for reconciliation. She said she would not entertain that idea for fear of losing herself in the relationship. He wrote: “Long story short: I have a pretty terrible medical condition that leaves me without feeling from the knees down and I…

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today we hear from “What Happened?” who wrote in last week about the guy she met at a conference who told her he loved her after a week of corresponding, talked with her every day for nine months, and then suddenly told her he needed space. “He said a lot of people were telling him not to talk to a girl who lives a few hours away — that I was distracting him. A week ago I saw him at another…

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today we hear from “Trick Or Treat Mom” whose baby daddy wanted to throw a Halloween party for his 8-year-old daughter on the pregnant LW’s due date. “We have known the due date for over six months! I am offended not because he’s deciding to throw a party so close to my son being born, but because he is refusing to change the date and is taking away from my son’s special day.” Did the LW get her way? Was the…

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today we hear from “Three Days or Else” who was pissed that it took a woman he met at a bar 19 whole days to respond to text him after he gave her his phone number. After she did finally text him, he proceeded to blow her off when she suggested they meet for coffee (“Why should this woman get her way after taking so long to contact me? Lol.”), tell her he likes sexy women who are good kissers, ask…

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today we hear first from “Maybe Baby Daddy” (second letter) whose ex-girlfriend told him she was pregnant with a baby girl and the baby was his. He wanted advice for how to tell his new girlfriend of four months. Some commenters argued that, based on the timeline he gave, the baby couldn’t be his. His update, plus two others, below.

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today we hear from “Sick of the Pattern” who wrote in after a vacation with a girlfriend of six months didn’t go very well and made them both question the relationship and whether they were a match. He wrote: “This has been happening for the last twenty years and it’s the same old pattern. I date a woman for three to six months, anxiety sets in, relationship ends, and anxiety dissipates. I’m sick of it. I’m even beginning to question myself…

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today we hear from “Feeling Guilty For Walking Away,” who was feeling guilty about walking away from her friend in an abusive marriage. “After twelve years of being by her side, I had to walk away from the friendship because the day-to-day phone calls, text messages, and e-mails about the things her husband has said or done, or the re-tellings of how her children have become injured because she’s not properly supervised them, or her parents keeping me updated about their…

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today we hear from “They Were On a Break” whose letter we read on Friday. She was upset that her boyfriend of six months was going on a pre-planned two-week vacation with his ex. She wrote: “I told him I was done and that I felt that the whole situation was too much for me. He has since written me a letter expressing he is in love with me — yet still planning on heading on the trip. I am feeling…

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today we hear from “Not Interested in That Path” who discovered that her boyfriend had been cheating on her with other men. She rationalized this, saying: “I was shocked and devastated. I knew this kind of thing existed (straight or married men looking for extra “fun”), but I didn’t know it was like 30-40% of straight men who have done this. He told me he was touched when he was young, and he was exposed to porn at a young age,…