I guess I don’t see this as cold feet or stalling on his part. They’re moving in together. He’s bought a ring. I don’t think that he’s stalling. He just wants to do some kind of dumbassed playing-the-lute-in-a-canoe-proposal.

@anonymousse I can’t believe i didn’t comment on that thread! I wonder if reading was what spurred me to post/reconfirmed my stance… Although if someone wanted to write a movie about our love affair, it would probably be quite dull in comparison to their special love!

We have chatted through all the “things to discuss before moving in/getting married” posts that Wendy has provided and we are in agreement about those things.

@Fyodor – if i could get him to play the lute, i think i could wait for the canoe proposal!!

He does seem excited about the living in the same house and in general, isn’t as into worrying about details/planning as i am.

So the talk was had – a moving date is set with the plan to be engaged before then. Now that there is a definite date and somewhat of a plan, i am feeling more relaxed. The same way i had an idea of how things should go down, so did he but he recognized his hang up about waiting until summer wasn’t about not wanting to move forward and that he could let that idea go. I joked about being the proposer and he said he’s come around on that idea so i may just go ahead and do it! We also joked about trying to out-propose each other which could lead to some hilarity. Cannot wait to tease him the first time we take the canoe out this summer….

Thank you all for your comments, suggestions and cautions. It really came down to taking the time to talk things through in more relaxed way.